i recently received an email from a friend of mine who is a girl who loves Jesus but is getting quite frustrated with the guys in her church not stepping up in the area of asking girls out [you can read the email and the responses i gave here]

after posting it, i received a pretty huge number of responses from Christian young adult women going “Yeah, step up boys!” or something like that. someone commented that mathematically there are more christian women than christian men so they’re already on the back foot.

then i read some comments that my new friend M Joshua had written at the end of his worth-reading Love Subverts blog on Christian Dating which you can read here.

and so, having dealt with this topic, i realised it needed a bit of a closer look – which i will do in my next two posts – but also that this is not just a guy thing – it’s a guy thing AND it’s a girl thing and i will look at both briefly with the hope that you will carefully look at the one that relates to you and give it some serious thort – i am also hoping that these blogs in particular will get you responding so we can hear exactly what you’re thinking and feeling and saying on the matter…

this seems to be quite a big deal, so let’s treat it like that – start by asking yourself the question: How do i as a Jesus-following guy/girl need to step up in the area of showing/receiving interest to members of the opposite sex?

you ready for this? read on…