SOUTH AFRICA

These are some of the recent posts that i and others have made to hopefully challenge and encourage and educate you as you try and figure out how to do life better in South Africa. Please feel free to share any of these posts that are helpful with people you think it might help to take one more step towards…

All Lives Smatter – a collection of thoughts about race, painting all people with the same brush and the need for whites to engage with whites

All White Lives Matter – a “Black Lives Matter for Dummies” kind of post

Ask before you leap [to conclusions] – a post looking at how we engage when we engage with others on race

8 Steps to help me become a better ally of my friends of colour – a short but helpful reminder

But pity the mutants – a painful look at how white people are able to feel more empathy for fictional characters and pets than black people

Entitlement with an “i” – a brief glimpse into the problem of entitlement in our country

If I were white, I’d have been able to breathe – guest post by Thandi Nkomo

She turned to me and asked me if being an Umlungu was something i enjoyed.

The Better Black – guest post by Thandi Nkomo

The queen, my dad, and Sarafina – guest post by Thandi Nkomo

Ways in which white people are better than black people [part I] – a very short post.

Ways in which white people aren’t better than black people [part II] – a more wordier post.

When someone with an African name gives you their “easier” English name.

When the offence is that you’re offended – looking a little deeper into entitlement in South Africa.

Extending the choice

By | February 1st, 2017|Categories: South Africa, things to wrestle with, thorts of other people|Tags: , , , , |

Who has the ability to choose? i was involved in a Whatsapp conversation with a really amazing group of people who have the most hecticest [it's a word] race conversations. Usually i can't keep up [...]

#NotOnOurWatch: That’s not my name!

By | January 26th, 2017|Categories: activities, race vibes, shtupidt people, South Africa, things to wrestle with|Tags: , , , |

i stopped to fill up my car with petrol today and got really mad and jumped on to my phone and wrote this as my Facebook status: Disclaimer: this post will not have the amount [...]

Can we please make it more about race?

By | January 20th, 2017|Categories: friends and enemas, race vibes, South Africa, things to wrestle with|Tags: , , |

You can tell i'm getting over my pity party. Well, maybe you didn't know i was having a pity party but it's my birthday and i'm trapped at home and my wife is out at [...]

Saturday Reflection: Prevalence of whiteness

By | January 14th, 2017|Categories: inspire-ations, South Africa, things to wrestle with|Tags: , , |

Two quick thoughts about whiteness that have been inspired by pieces that two amazing women [Jess and Jana] have written for my upcoming book on race. Less than ten percent of people in South Africa are [...]

Things to learn from being Born A Crime, part I [Fish]

By | January 6th, 2017|Categories: South Africa, thorts of other people, what i am reading|Tags: , , |

Yesterday i shared a bit of a book review of Trevor Noah's new book, 'Born a Crime'. i would like to share a few of the excerpts from that book [which i recommend you get [...]

How do we harness the Christmas/New Year’s Shalom?

By | January 5th, 2017|Categories: inspire-ations, South Africa, things to wrestle with|Tags: , , , |

Shalom means completeness, wholeness, health, peace, welfare, safety soundness, tranquility, prosperity, perfectness, fullness, rest, harmony, the absence of agitation or discord. Shalom comes from the root verb shalom meaning to be complete, perfect and full. [...]

Book Review: Born a Crime – Trevor Noah

By | January 5th, 2017|Categories: South Africa, thorts of other people, what i am reading|Tags: , , , |

i just finished reading 'Born a Crime' by Trevor Noah. Aaand i'm in two minds... there is something i can't quite put my finger on - whether the book feels lazy or rushed or perhaps [...]

Beware the Ides of 2017

By | December 7th, 2016|Categories: activities, inspire-ations, positive ideas for change, South Africa, things to wrestle with|Tags: , , , |

To 2017 and beyond... i imagine this might come as a surprise to some people... or maybe not. But in the last week or so i've had a strong sense that God has been telling [...]

My Traitor’s Heart: The fear we cause

By | December 2nd, 2016|Categories: pain and Hope, race vibes, South Africa, things to wrestle with, thorts of other people, what i am reading|Tags: , , , |

'I began to understand something quite important about South Africa: My fear of blacks was obscuring my understanding of the fear backs felt for my white skin.'  [Rian Malan, My Traitor's Heart] i am almost [...]

Deep Dive Conversation at St Johns

By | November 19th, 2016|Categories: activities, Food and foodlike things, inspire-ations, South Africa|Tags: , , , |

Last night we hosted another Deep Dive Conversation Dinner, this time at someone else's house. This was a dinner that has been in the planning for months and one that i've been super excited and [...]

#NotOnOurWatch: Who it’s for.

By | November 16th, 2016|Categories: inspire-ations, race vibes, South Africa, things to wrestle with|Tags: , , , , |

For months i've been speaking about the idea of #NotOnOurWatch as a movement worth joining. i know a lot of people have been challenged by that and in their own ways are joining in [i [...]

Restitution: the beginning

By | November 10th, 2016|Categories: pain and Hope, race vibes, South Africa, things to wrestle with|Tags: , , , , |

i attended the Restitution Conference yesterday at the Castle in Cape Town, cos slavery. [And am going back later today for part II] Which in some ways just feels like a thing i did. Oh [...]