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The Better Coloured: some thoughts from Terence Mentor

i asked me friend Terence if he would share some thoughts about the concept of 'The Better Coloured' and he came up with these: “Yeah, but you’re one of the good ones” My friend and I were standing under a tree trying to escape the summer heat during break-time. He had been talking about those “gangsters” and “kak okes” of the school – the Coloureds. Luckily for me, I, with my meekness and my white [...]

The Better Coloured/Black/Indian

i first heard the term 'the better black' from a friend of mine who i am hoping will share a bit of her story for this series at some stage. It was shared in the context of her being part of a church congregation that looked very diverse on the outside but where she felt pressure to look and behave in ways acceptable to white people so as to fit in. Phrases like; "You speak [...]

How a-Woke am i?

What do you see in this picture? A young woman looking away from you? Or a much older woman looking to the left? You're sitting in a business meeting with five men and five woman around a boardroom table. One of the women makes a suggestion which is largely ignored. Ten minutes later, her male colleague makes what is in reality pretty much the same suggestion, and it is met with great support and encouraging [...]

By | 2017-07-17T08:15:49+00:00 July 17th, 2017|activities|2 Comments

Agreeing to disagree in the very best of ways…

'Howzit buddy, just got to Bootleggers.' [Whatsapp from Lukhanyo Neer] What a great message to receive. i had been looking forward to connecting with Lukhanyo for a while, since i had met him at The Justice Conference in March and again after interacting on some #MenAreTrash vibes on Facebook. This week tbV [the beautiful Val] has been away at a retreat and i have filled a lot of my time with meetings and connections and [...]

Philandro Castile, Imizamo Yethu and the uneven choice

'Once again, police get away with murder.'  Those are the words Julia Wallace used to begin this article she wrote about the murder of Philandro Castile and the subsequent "Not Guilty" acquittal of Jeromino Yanez, the police offer who clearly panicked [if you have watched the horrific video of the shooting], killing him in front of his girlfriend and four year old daughter in a car. Everything in the incident seems to give unequivocal evidence as [...]

Race with Me: When have white people done enough?

In this video i take a brief look at the question of when we as white people can move on from needing to talk about and act on apartheid stuff...

Race with me – Intro

i wanted to create a video version of much of what is blogged about on here in terms of Race and particularly South Africa. Not because i know it all, but because i have learned and am learning some stuff and want to share it with others who might be needing to learn. The title 'Race with me' is a multi-layered name that simply invites you to engage with issues of race with me, while at [...]

By | 2017-06-26T10:21:49+00:00 May 5th, 2017|activities, race vibes, South Africa|6 Comments

Deep Dive your way to deeper relationship.

Last night we hosted our second Deep Dive Dinner Conversation in Durban. While Saturday's was a group of all white people chatting about Identity as a white person in South Africa, last night was a completely more diverse group of twelve including indian, coloured, black and white. Two very different dinners, but each with a specific focus and both providing some amazing conversation. But the most outstanding thing for me at both dinners was the [...]

Bleak Monday: Studios were touched

Some thoughts linked to #BlackMonday that took place in South Africa this past week... i imagine an up market coffee shop somewhere in the heart of Cape Town where black clothed wearing upper class people are sipping on their frozen no-whip skinny ironies... = = = i woke up this morning with no idea what i was going to wear - which is stupid, really, cos Monday is Batman t-shirt day [this is not a [...]

Can we please make it more about race?

You can tell i'm getting over my pity party. Well, maybe you didn't know i was having a pity party but it's my birthday and i'm trapped at home and my wife is out at work and the one thing i have to look forward to is an Improv show i am doing tonight which a total of seven people have booked for. And a number of those may or may not be related to [...]