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More Tales of White Fragility

'White Fragility' by Robin DiAngelo has been one of the most helpful books i have read on the subject of race and racism. It has helped put some language on some concepts i was aware of and it has shared some useful analogies that break down complex issues into much simpler ideas. i highly recommend you get a copy and give it a read if you are trying to navigate these race waters and [...]

Tales of White Fragility

i have just started reading Robin DiAngelo's 'White Fragility: Why it's so hard for white people to talk about racism' and am already in love. You should basically just go and buy the book. [Got it for R200 on Loot] It is that good. Am only part way in and already feels like such a game changer both in terms of the language it uses [and some helpful analogy already] and the ways in [...]

The two elders and the swine

i know a good number of people have been eagerly watching and waiting for this feedback. Let me start by firstly saying, 'That's good and well and fine and all, but it's not good enough. Have your own conversations. Invite differing opinions and viewpoints to your house for coffee. Take these conversations offline.' = = = = = = = = = = = = The Context A few weeks ago there was a bit [...]

But Jesus.

It's been a frustrating few hours arguing with people on Facebook around this statement i shared on Facebook: What if i am wrong? A number of people came on and defended the rich and tried to misdirect away from the problem and called me a lot of things, telling me how my line of thinking was responsible for more deaths than Hitler managed and so on. And it's super frustrating because a [...]

By |2018-10-30T20:54:14+00:00Oct 24th, 2018|challenging thorts, things to wrestle with|6 Comments

Blessed are the defensive

Why do you think you are defensive? And if a quick ebullient [don't worry, i had to look it up too!] slightly-too-loud I'M NOT DEFENSIVE burst out of you or at the very least charged its way into your mind, then that might be a helpful sign. Blessed are the Defensive... ...for they shall resist change! The online dictionary definition of 'defensive' starts off simply by saying, 'used or intended to defend or protect' which [...]

By |2018-10-10T08:22:35+00:00Oct 10th, 2018|shtupidt people, things to wrestle with|2 Comments

A day of Rest.

Sunday morning i had the privilege of attending a public conversation between Lukhanyo Calata [author of 'My father died for this'] and Wilhelm Verwoed [author of 'Bloedbande'] as the final session of the Restitution conference that took place this weekend. i dropped some soundbites on Facebook as it was happening and some other things that the reflections prompted in me and figured it might be helpful for people who weren't on their social medias to gather [...]

Blessed are the Uncomfortable

...for they will see change!  i had an epiphany this morning that if more of us were a little more okay with being uncomfortable, we could completely revolutionise the world. When it comes to race conversations or men treating women better or even religious or political discussions, the moment someone starts to feel a little bit uncomfortable they usually find a quick way to end things or get back to more 'safer territory'. Where does [...]

By |2018-07-20T13:44:14+00:00Jul 20th, 2018|inspire-ations, things to wrestle with|0 Comments

“I’m sorry YOU were offended.”

"Sorry guys, did not realise it would be offensive."  [Brett gives explanation of why it is offensive] "Brett. let's end the issue right there." = = = = = = = = = = This was the end of an exchange in a WhatsApp group that took place this morning. Yup, while you guys are coffeeing and breakfasting, this is how i choose to start my day. It is a sports team WhatsApp and certain [...]

Breaking Bread [with Trevor]: On the White Saviour Complex

Trevor and i have not done a Tandem Blog post for a while and so we decided to jump right into this topic of The White Saviour Complex with the rules being five comments per person at around 100 words back and forth until we have a conversation to share. You can see this and more on Trevor's Swart Donkey blog over here (1/10) Trev: Brett, you and I both come from incredibly similar backgrounds. [...]

The black woman speaker, the deputy principal and a truckload of exclamation marks…

Can i just start by saying that i absolutely LOVE the [majority of the] community who wrestle with me with aspects of race and privilege and poverty and more on social media. It is probably a wonder that more of you haven't given up on me, but when you stick around and when you push back and when we seriously engage with the topics at hand [and those hiding behind the hand] we learn so [...]