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Open Letter to School Principals in South Africa

Dear Principal, This week we have all been shocked and deeply dismayed to witness the Selborne College Class of 2017 scandal with the dog-faced Hector Pieterson photo incident. Another week, another SA school making the headlines for all the wrong reasons. I’m sure you hope your school isn’t next - there are no quick fix solutions, but there are proven strategies available to ensure you’re not. As the person overseeing an educational institution in South [...]

By | 2017-12-06T23:51:51+00:00 December 6th, 2017|#NotOnOurWatch, pain and Hope, South Africa|0 Comments

The freedom that comes with Forgiveness

Is Forgiveness more than just a nice idea? My friend Julie asked me to post a piece on the topic of forgiveness after i recorded a Facebook Live conversation about it, so here goes. i have a friend who recently got caught doing some pretty reprehensible stuff. We weren't good friends but i have known him for ten years and his actions totally took a lot of people by surprise and a lot of people [...]

By | 2017-11-15T11:15:21+00:00 November 15th, 2017|bible things, God stuff, pain and Hope, things to wrestle with|1 Comment

Poem: This skin

If I stay out in the sun long enough Can the red hide the pain of past injustices? If I poke my head over an electrified walled property on the slopes of Camps Bay Will the green be enough to disguise my own wealth I struggle to even keep track of? If I host a sad movie marathon with tales of war, missed out romance and dying people Might the blue cover over my own [...]

By | 2017-11-14T09:17:17+00:00 November 14th, 2017|pain and Hope, poems and other creativity, race vibes|0 Comments

Time to leave the old South African flag behind for good

What a week, South Africa. Of old flags and racist rants and countrywide demonstrations and polarised conversations and threats of rape and questions of intelligence and more. How do we move on from here? i wrote this post to try and invite people from both sides to consider the opinion of the other and step towards them, at least in understanding if not agreement. One aspect of last week that came up was conversations about [...]

By | 2017-11-06T10:57:42+00:00 November 6th, 2017|pain and Hope, positive ideas for change, South Africa|0 Comments

Some more thoughts on #BlackMonday and #AllDeathsMatter

Yesterday i shared a whole bunch of thoughts - mine and others - about the concept of #BlackMonday and wearing black to honour the lives of farmers who have died. Two statuses i added later in the day, which many may not have seen, but which i think sum up some of my thoughts on the matter were this one: People who have been murdered on farms is heart-breaking and horrific and i imagine that [...]

Some thoughts about wearing black on Monday for the farmers

Today's Facebook status with regards to the #BlackMonday in response to farm murders has garnered a lot of attention. This is what i wrote: Anytime someone is murdered it is a tragedy. But, if you are concerned about the farm murders to the point of wanting to wear black for the victims, but have never considered wearing black for the black, coloured or indian victims of murder [which check your statistics, are all being killed [...]

Why #MeToo can not be last week’s news

It's been a week since the #MeToo tag went viral. When women across social media platforms started sharing their stories, or simply putting their hands up to help us glimpse the extent of sexual abuse and harassment that so many of them face on a daily basis. Many of you may have read The Invisible Men piece i wrote, in which one of the main questions was, "Where are the men committing these acts and [...]

Taboo Topics: Living with Bipolar 2 – meet Claudia Klaase

My friend Claudia bravely shares some of her journey with Bipolar2: 15 is far too young to decide to stand on a railway track and end it all. But if you felt like the world is around you is a dark vortex of despair, hate and no hope death seems like a really good option. Or at least that is what it felt like to me. 3 other attempts followed in the next 20 years. [...]

By | 2017-10-23T06:43:43+00:00 October 23rd, 2017|inspire-ations, pain and Hope, Taboo Topics, Uncategorized|0 Comments

More thoughts on becoming a real man

Let me start with a little spoiler alert - the answer to becoming a real man is not going to have anything to do with punching sharks. Or knifing them. A couple of days ago i compiled this post with a number of suggestions for us men in terms of treating women better. It was spread around a lot and sparked a whole lot of conversation which was really great to watch and be a [...]

By | 2017-09-13T10:23:10+00:00 September 12th, 2017|#NotOnOurWatch, pain and Hope, things to wrestle with|2 Comments

Taboo Topics: Parents of young children – Meet Geraldine Walsh

i am so grateful to my friend Geraldine Walsh, who recently joined the @AFrikkinHashtag Hashtagging team on Twittter for sharing such a vulnerable story about her time as a new mom as well as letting me link this to her post on post-natal depression. Make sure that you sign up to follow her blog after reading this: Today is B’s birthday. Instead of it being a lovely family day with nice surprises for [...]