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Married People: Tips #11-15

Marriage Tip #11 My friend Robert Martin, who recently lost his wife, asked if he could share a tip and having gone through this with a best friend before i can echo so much of this: Treasure EVERY moment... I, unfortunately, sit in a place where my other half is no longer around to exercise tips 1-10. And there is much regret that I'm wrestling with. Time that we BOTH wasted in our lives together [...]

By |2018-11-16T09:05:08+00:00November 16th, 2018|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|3 Comments

Of airports and mummies

So yesterday tbV [the beautiful Val] returned from a two week trip to the UK and i went to meet her at the airport dressed up as a Mummy. Not to be confused with dressing up as my mummy. That's a whole different set of counselling. Shiny, Happy, People i thought yesterday, as a tend to do pretty much every time i dress up to meet people at the airport [yes, it's a thing!] that i [...]

By |2018-11-16T08:23:53+00:00November 16th, 2018|fun, people, silly things|0 Comments

More Tales of White Fragility

'White Fragility' by Robin DiAngelo has been one of the most helpful books i have read on the subject of race and racism. It has helped put some language on some concepts i was aware of and it has shared some useful analogies that break down complex issues into much simpler ideas. i highly recommend you get a copy and give it a read if you are trying to navigate these race waters and [...]

Married People: Tips #6-10

Marriage Tip #6 Be quick to deal with issues. The bible [whether you believe in it or not] has this great piece of wisdom: 'In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.' There are times when anger might be a justified response to something but the key is not letting that anger cause you to hurt your [...]

By |2018-11-16T09:08:09+00:00November 11th, 2018|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage|2 Comments

Married People Tips #1-5

Married People Tip #1 Find things to do together. Find things to do apart. Either of these extremes can be detrimental to a marriage and the balance will no doubt differ between marriages but typically i imagine there are some things you will find that you love to do together [for us that includes boardgames, weekend walks, certain series, challenging conversations, dressing up crazy to meet people at airports] and other things that you prefer [...]

By |2018-11-11T22:42:16+00:00November 6th, 2018|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage|2 Comments

Follow your values or they’re not

If i had to ask you to sit for five minutes and write down the 5 top things you Value in life, what would make it on to your list? i haven't given this any thought at all [but hopefully with key values you shouldn't have to] but 5 that would appear on my list would be: # love God and follow Jesus # love my neighbour as myself  # generosity # honesty # hospitality [...]

By |2018-11-06T12:40:19+00:00November 6th, 2018|inspire-ations, people|0 Comments

Tales of White Fragility

i have just started reading Robin DiAngelo's 'White Fragility: Why it's so hard for white people to talk about racism' and am already in love. You should basically just go and buy the book. [Got it for R200 on Loot] It is that good. Am only part way in and already feels like such a game changer both in terms of the language it uses [and some helpful analogy already] and the ways in [...]

By |2018-11-13T00:34:30+00:00November 2nd, 2018|race vibes, things to wrestle with, what i am reading|1 Comment

A Frikkin Hashtag: #TheyRobbedMyHouseButLeft

So my house got burgled and i lost a few months supplies of tweets saved for F.L.O.P. lists which gave me an idea of this tag which Cheryl and K Dawg ran for me: [The Story So Far: Every Wednesday at 12 noon South African time [6am EDT] an inspired and growing number of brilliant, creative and absolutely fun people from all around the world take part in what is called a Hashtag game. @AFrikkinHashtag [...]

By |2018-10-30T12:54:47+00:00October 30th, 2018|AFrikkinHashtag, games & Stuff, Hashtag Game, silly things|0 Comments

The two elders and the swine

i know a good number of people have been eagerly watching and waiting for this feedback. Let me start by firstly saying, 'That's good and well and fine and all, but it's not good enough. Have your own conversations. Invite differing opinions and viewpoints to your house for coffee. Take these conversations offline.' = = = = = = = = = = = = The Context A few weeks ago there was a bit [...]

When issues become people

i am convinced that the solution to South Africa's problems lies in relationships. Issues can feel quite overwhelming - and they are - but are also somewhat easy to take a break from or switch off. When it's your friend who hasn't eaten or is struggling to find work or is lying in a hospital bed, then it's a lot easier and more natural to show compassion and want to be involved. Another fire [...]

By |2018-10-27T08:44:13+00:00October 27th, 2018|activities, change the world|0 Comments