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A Frikkin Hashtag: #MyEscapePlanIncludes

We all know about the metal file hidden in the cake delivered to the prison cell, but we wondered what your plan would involve... [The Story So Far: Every Wednesday at 12 noon South African time [6am EDT] an inspired and growing number of brilliant, creative and absolutely fun people from all around the world take part in what is called a Hashtag game. @AFrikkinHashtag [say it out loud] is South Africa’s #1 Hashtag game [...]

By | 2017-09-20T10:46:06+00:00 September 20th, 2017|activities, AFrikkinHashtag, games & Stuff, Hashtag Game, silly things|0 Comments

Between Ta-Nihisi Coates and me

It's not a long book and it is not difficult reading [#LoveLanguage] and i am almost halfway through 'Between the World and Me' by Ta-Nehisi Coates, which i already shared one passage from to whet your appetites. But yoh, this book is so so good. Coates writes with such a rough and organic style that tends to draw you along with its poetic feel and then punch you in the stomach with the reality of [...]

By | 2017-09-18T12:18:02+00:00 September 18th, 2017|race vibes, thorts of other people, what i am reading|0 Comments

Witnessing the Cult of the Ekac

i witnessed a bizarre and strange thing today. A frenzied group of people stood at a bit of a distance as the two lead people were ceremoniously handed a long dagger. The crowd seemed completely mesmerised by this ritual that was being carried out in front of them and started cheering and screaming, urging them to make the first cut. Man and woman stood silently, holding the knife poised as if deciding which of them [...]

By | 2017-09-16T16:26:10+00:00 September 16th, 2017|activities|0 Comments

Between the world and Ta-Nehisi Coates

i just started reading 'Between the World and Me' by Ta-Nehisi Coates, which has been on my to-read pile for a while now. It is written in the form of a series of letters between him and his son and speaks into race in America and beyond. This is another book well worth reading, especially as someone trying to understand more the race dynamics of our day and age. This extract jumped out at me: [...]

By | 2017-09-20T10:07:37+00:00 September 15th, 2017|inspire-ations, thorts of other people, what i am reading|1 Comment

Biko: A Biography – some thoughts and words

So recently i finished reading the book, 'Biko: A Biography' by Xolela Mangcu It is not often that you get to hang out with the guy who authored the book you are reading [unless you have bought my book, 'i, church' and then hang out with me over an ice cold board game, of course] but this is how that happened. tbV and i had been invited to a friend's house for a meal and [...]

By | 2017-09-14T14:53:40+00:00 September 14th, 2017|South Africa, what i am reading|0 Comments

Oh man, we got a problem

We've been having some conversations online about what it means to be a real man, and how to treat women better. And while the choir is cheering us on, it is quite obvious that there is still a whole lot of work to be done. i am hoping that those who struggle with the race conversations will have a light come on when it comes to these conversations, because in some ways they are the [...]

More thoughts on becoming a real man

Let me start with a little spoiler alert - the answer to becoming a real man is not going to have anything to do with punching sharks. Or knifing them. A couple of days ago i compiled this post with a number of suggestions for us men in terms of treating women better. It was spread around a lot and sparked a whole lot of conversation which was really great to watch and be a [...]

By | 2017-09-13T10:23:10+00:00 September 12th, 2017|#NotOnOurWatch, pain and Hope, things to wrestle with|2 Comments

The Good, The Bad and “You’re Ugly!”

It was the best of Social Medias, it was the worst of Social Medias. i mean, let's be honest, i don't tend towards being a 'go gently into that good night' kind of person when it comes to the online. Or the offline. Or an unattended chocolate fountain, to be honest, but that's just your fault wedding reception i wasn't even invited to! MMmm, cho-co-late fountain.... now, where was i? Oh yes, social media. Well [...]

By | 2017-09-11T16:47:03+00:00 September 11th, 2017|activities|0 Comments

Thoughts on being a real man

This is a status i posted on Facebook today which i thought would be a bit more easy to share as a blog post and i hope that men [in particular] who agree with what is written here, will share it on your wall and via your Twitterer accounts as a sign of saying you agree and are committed to being part Menfolk, listen up. On more than one occasion, my wife, Valerie, has been [...]

Change Cape Town: Outliers event 2017

So last night was the annual Outliers event and it was incredible - six speakers, six talks, ten minutes each, with ten slides accompanying them. With my wife tbV kicking it off and setting the foundation and then just amazing speaker after amazing speaker knocking it out of the park. The edited videos will be up in a while, but i think some of the talks are already available on their Facebook page over here. [...]

By | 2017-09-07T07:53:55+00:00 September 7th, 2017|activities, inspire-ations|1 Comment