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Bloggers Block: Episode 2 – Forgiveness, for my sake.

Yesterday i found myself facing Blogger’s Block. i mean is that even a thing? i know ‘Writer’s Block’ is a thing and so surely it must be. Anyways, i decided to turn to the Twitterer and share my dilemma and ask for topics to write on and a few really good ones came in. So i thought i would dedicate this week’s bloggering to picking topics that others have chosen for me and writing on them [...]

Married People Tips: The Bonus – Marriage with kids

Having finished taking a look at 40 Tips to help people look at their marriages and perhaps do them better, i asked some of my friends who have children if any of them had any tips for how to do marriage better when you have children... so here we have some thoughts on Marriage with Kids BONUS Marriage [with children] Tip #1: Rich Erasmus My “one tip” overlaps with the parenting vibe and sex … [...]

By |2019-05-04T16:40:44+02:00May 4th, 2019|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|0 Comments

Married People Tips: The Summary [40 in one post]

For the last 40ish days i have been dropping one tip to help you 'I do' better and so now we have a collection of 40 Tips to help married people improve their marriage. For the journey through a more in-depth look at each tip, you can start over here... But for those of you who have journeyed with me, i thought it might be helpful to have all 40 tips summarised into a line [...]

By |2018-12-15T09:16:45+02:00Dec 15th, 2018|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|1 Comment

Married People Tips #36-40

We head into the last 5 tips of this marriage series. If this has been helpful in any way please SHARE it on your social media and tag your friends so they can benefit as well. Would love to hear some summary thoughts you might have in the comments... Marriage Tip #36 Fight well. i do think because of the nature of marriage being between two people that each one looks quite significantly different from [...]

By |2018-12-14T09:40:05+02:00Dec 14th, 2018|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|0 Comments

Married People Tips #26-30

The next five married tips to help you think about and act on how to do marriage well: Marriage Tip #26 Rage, Rage against the selfishness of the me. Just as online people tend towards stupid [a brettfish original], offline people tend towards selfish. In a world that has at times whispered but more often shouted 'THIS IS ALL ABOUT YOU!' into your ear as it has watched you grow up, this should not be [...]

By |2018-12-10T11:36:52+02:00Dec 10th, 2018|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|2 Comments

Married People Tips #21-25

Marriage Tip #21 Tend towards the cleaner one. Now this is not to much specifically a marriage tip as it is a people-who-live-in-the-same-space tip and i probably observed this more living in community with tbV and others in Philly than with just me and Val. But it can be huge. The person who hates breadcrumbs on the counter is MUCH MORE emotionally invested than the person who doesn't care [or notice] breadcrumbs on the counter. [...]

Married People: Tips #11-15

Marriage Tip #11 My friend Robert Martin, who recently lost his wife, asked if he could share a tip and having gone through this with a best friend before i can echo so much of this: Treasure EVERY moment... I, unfortunately, sit in a place where my other half is no longer around to exercise tips 1-10. And there is much regret that I'm wrestling with. Time that we BOTH wasted in our lives together [...]

By |2018-11-21T08:41:43+02:00Nov 16th, 2018|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|3 Comments

Spank you very much: Hitting your kids and stuff

Is it okay for us to hit our kids? Is the question a lot of parents are asking, especially in light of the new change to the law in South Africa. i was going to do next week's Facebook Live video on it, but the conversations were happening thick and fast and so i decided to actually do one today, which is worth watching and reading the accompanying comments to. Teacher Tom has some helpful [...]

Taboo Topics: Singleness – Meet Simangele Mabena

Things started changing when I was in Montreal in 2012. I distinctly remember walking along the beautiful historic buildings enjoying the sunshine when I heard a voice, “You can’t do this anymore”. Do what? I thought. It didn’t take me long to realise what “THIS” was. I had somehow hit a wall in my single life. I wasn’t dating anyone – heck, I as actively avoiding anyone who suggested I go out on a date [...]

Taboo Topic: When Marriage is Hard – meet Catherine and Alastair

Marriage can be amazing. But it is not always the easiest of things. My friend Catherine shares some of her journey with Alastair: “So how’s married life treating you?” My husband and I look at each other, shake our heads slightly and smile. It’s everybody’s favourite question but nobody wants the honest answer. We’ve stopped telling our friends the truth and started telling them what they want to hear. “Yeah, marriage is good. All good, [...]

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