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Spank you very much: Hitting your kids and stuff

Is it okay for us to hit our kids? Is the question a lot of parents are asking, especially in light of the new change to the law in South Africa. i was going to do next week's Facebook Live video on it, but the conversations were happening thick and fast and so i decided to actually do one today, which is worth watching and reading the accompanying comments to. Teacher Tom has some helpful [...]

Taboo Topics: Singleness – Meet Simangele Mabena

Things started changing when I was in Montreal in 2012. I distinctly remember walking along the beautiful historic buildings enjoying the sunshine when I heard a voice, “You can’t do this anymore”. Do what? I thought. It didn’t take me long to realise what “THIS” was. I had somehow hit a wall in my single life. I wasn’t dating anyone – heck, I as actively avoiding anyone who suggested I go out on a date [...]

By | 2017-01-26T17:44:50+00:00 January 26th, 2017|relationships, Taboo Topics, thorts of other people|2 Comments

Taboo Topic: When Marriage is Hard – meet Catherine and Alastair

Marriage can be amazing. But it is not always the easiest of things. My friend Catherine shares some of her journey with Alastair: “So how’s married life treating you?” My husband and I look at each other, shake our heads slightly and smile. It’s everybody’s favourite question but nobody wants the honest answer. We’ve stopped telling our friends the truth and started telling them what they want to hear. “Yeah, marriage is good. All good, [...]

By | 2017-01-12T09:01:06+00:00 January 12th, 2017|marriage, relationships, Taboo Topics, thorts of other people|5 Comments

Taboo Topic: When Marriage is Hard – meet Dannean and Sean

Marriage is not always the easiest of things. i asked Dannean to share some of the struggles her and Sean encountered as they entered those waters: About Us Sean and I are in our late 30's. We have been married for 9 and a half years and been together for 12. We have three 'Magnificent Productions' in the way of two little boys (6 and 4 years old) and a gorgeous little princess (1 year [...]

By | 2017-01-10T10:01:16+00:00 January 10th, 2017|marriage, relationships, Taboo Topics, thorts of other people|3 Comments

Taboo Topics: When Marriage is Hard – Intro

Marriage is a beautiful amazing incredible thing. But it is not always as easy as it looks from the outside. The purpose of Taboo Topics on this blog is to create a place where people can share stories on topics that are rarely spoken about. Marriage being tough or requiring work or needing counselling to help you get by, is definitely one of those. The hope is that if you are someone who is married, [...]

More Parenting ideas from non-parents

So yesterday's post looking at Parenting Ideas from non-parents generated a lot of healthy conversation. i had a few more people share some more ideas and while me sharing them is not an endorsement to all of the ideas [this is honestly meant to be some input to reflect on, consider, see if there is any good worth holding on to] there are some things here that i really think are helpful. And so parentals, [...]

Community Parenting: Advice from those who don’t have children. [Intro]

Do i as a person without children have anything of worth to offer as advice to those who do? This blog post or mini series comes out of an article i wrote for 1Africa this morning, titled, 'Other People's Children: An offer of help' with the bottom line being that i do believe we might have something to offer. Which led to me posting this as my status on Facebook: For ANYONE WHO DOESN'T HAVE ANY CHILDREN, [...]

Seven years anniversary reflections.

i considered titling this post "Seven years a slave" for the clickbait effect, but didn't for two reasons: [1] That would be horribly offensive to slaves and slavery and the ongoing pseudo-slavery that still happens in many places around the world. [2] That would be horribly offensive to marriage and married people. And especially tbV [the beautiful Val]. People who make jokes or digs or insinuations about marriage being like slavery or a prison sentence [...]

By | 2016-07-14T08:43:36+00:00 July 14th, 2016|activities, relationships, shtupidt people|3 Comments

Relationships

When switching from my old website to my new one, not everything made the jump and so i am creating this as a base page to stick helpful links about Relationships in various shapes and forms. i have had some incredible people write some super helpful posts on topics ranging from Singleness to Dating to Engagement to Marriage to being Parents of young children when it's not particularly easy and more. Hopefully soon i will [...]

By | 2016-05-27T16:00:16+00:00 May 27th, 2016|relationships|0 Comments

Celebrating Ten Years of Rob and Nicky

Today we celebrate the Marriage of my best mate Rob Lloyd and his wife Nicky. We continue to mourn the loss of a dear friend, a husband, a brother, a son, a mentor, a pastor, a worship leader, an ultimate frisbee player, a model of generosity, a voice of reason and hope and faith and so much more. […]