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Married People Tips #36-40

We head into the last 5 tips of this marriage series. If this has been helpful in any way please SHARE it on your social media and tag your friends so they can benefit as well. Would love to hear some summary thoughts you might have in the comments... Marriage Tip #36 Fight well. i do think because of the nature of marriage being between two people that each one looks quite significantly different from [...]

By |2018-12-14T09:40:05+00:00Dec 14th, 2018|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|0 Comments

Married People Tips #26-30

The next five married tips to help you think about and act on how to do marriage well: Marriage Tip #26 Rage, Rage against the selfishness of the me. Just as online people tend towards stupid [a brettfish original], offline people tend towards selfish. In a world that has at times whispered but more often shouted 'THIS IS ALL ABOUT YOU!' into your ear as it has watched you grow up, this should not be [...]

By |2018-12-10T11:36:52+00:00Dec 10th, 2018|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|1 Comment

Married People Tips #21-25

Marriage Tip #21 Tend towards the cleaner one. Now this is not to much specifically a marriage tip as it is a people-who-live-in-the-same-space tip and i probably observed this more living in community with tbV and others in Philly than with just me and Val. But it can be huge. The person who hates breadcrumbs on the counter is MUCH MORE emotionally invested than the person who doesn't care [or notice] breadcrumbs on the counter. [...]

Married People Tips #16-20

Marriage Tip #16 Communication. Work at it. i touched on this yesterday when mentioning Expectation as missed expectations can be a huge source of conflict or resentment in marriage. And someone mentioned Communication which is key to having a healthy marriage. We looked at the five love languages in tip 5 and in some ways, i think communication works in a similar way. We communicate in different ways and we hear things or retain them [...]

Married People: Tips #11-15

Marriage Tip #11 My friend Robert Martin, who recently lost his wife, asked if he could share a tip and having gone through this with a best friend before i can echo so much of this: Treasure EVERY moment... I, unfortunately, sit in a place where my other half is no longer around to exercise tips 1-10. And there is much regret that I'm wrestling with. Time that we BOTH wasted in our lives together [...]

By |2018-11-21T08:41:43+00:00Nov 16th, 2018|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|3 Comments

Married People: Tips #6-10

Marriage Tip #6 Be quick to deal with issues. The bible [whether you believe in it or not] has this great piece of wisdom: 'In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.' There are times when anger might be a justified response to something but the key is not letting that anger cause you to hurt your [...]

By |2018-11-20T10:06:06+00:00Nov 11th, 2018|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage|2 Comments

Married People Tips #1-5

Married People Tip #1 Find things to do together. Find things to do apart. Either of these extremes can be detrimental to a marriage and the balance will no doubt differ between marriages but typically i imagine there are some things you will find that you love to do together [for us that includes boardgames, weekend walks, certain series, challenging conversations, dressing up crazy to meet people at airports] and other things that you prefer [...]

By |2018-11-11T22:42:16+00:00Nov 6th, 2018|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage|5 Comments

The Bad Habits of Jesus

i am busy reading Leonard Sweet's book, 'The Bad Habits of Jesus: Showing us the way to live right in a world gone wrong'. It has a very different way of looking at Jesus in terms of picking up some things that might be seen as bad habits - He spat, He procrastinated, He was constantly disappearing, He offended people, He hung out with bad people and so on - and showing how they point [...]

A moving post

Just to clarify, that is NOT us. Or if it is us, then what's going on behind the boxes is quite likely to NOT be mirroring what you see on the outside. If you were to look REALLY carefully, perhaps you would see tiny little drops of salty liquid dripping down from under the boxes. Yes, ladies and gentlemen [and blog trolls!] we move home in three days... A MOVING MARRIAGE Which technically will be [...]

By |2016-03-22T07:42:42+00:00Mar 22nd, 2016|activities, love and chocolate, pain and Hope|0 Comments

Hugh Jass? I’m looking for a Hugh Jass?

If you're married, then probably every day there is at least one thing that happens that makes you just smile and know why you married that particular person. But on some days the thing is more obvious and the smile is much bigger. i have had a bit of a history with airport dressing-up ever since i was greeted in the Durban airport by two of my friends [and two of their friends] in full-on [...]