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The invisible men

Where have all the bad men gone? i know i'm not friends with any of them, because none of my friends have come forward with a #MeToo signifying they were the perpetrator and not the victim. In case you're not sure what we're talking about, this is a response to a Twitterer campaign that went viral after actor Alyssa Milano posted this tweet: If you’ve been sexually harassed or assaulted write ‘me too’ as a [...]

Is it okay to name and shame? [Facebook Poll results]

Is it okay to name and shame a person online? For example when someone has said or done something hugely sexist or racist, does the world need to know? That was part of the conversation we had yesterday. In the light of the controversial Dove ad and the Harvey Weinstein accusations. Locally, i am thinking of the Penny Sparrow incident of comparing black beachgoers to monkeys and internationally there have been the repeated cases against [...]

By | 2017-10-10T09:09:00+00:00 October 10th, 2017|activities, things to wrestle with, thorts of other people|0 Comments

Let’s make this Christmas the best one yet

Those who know me well know that one of the ways i count the success of a year is how late in the year i hear my first Christmas Carol [holding thumbs - still not there!] But looks like i am the 'there is always one' this time around as we have barely crawled our way into October and i am already bringing up Christmas? Well, i know not everyone is a champion leave-it-all-for-the-night-before-and-then-go-on-a-panic-shopping-spree guy [...]

Between Ta-Nihisi Coates and me

It's not a long book and it is not difficult reading [#LoveLanguage] and i am almost halfway through 'Between the World and Me' by Ta-Nehisi Coates, which i already shared one passage from to whet your appetites. But yoh, this book is so so good. Coates writes with such a rough and organic style that tends to draw you along with its poetic feel and then punch you in the stomach with the reality of [...]

By | 2017-09-18T12:18:02+00:00 September 18th, 2017|race vibes, thorts of other people, what i am reading|0 Comments

Between the world and Ta-Nehisi Coates

i just started reading 'Between the World and Me' by Ta-Nehisi Coates, which has been on my to-read pile for a while now. It is written in the form of a series of letters between him and his son and speaks into race in America and beyond. This is another book well worth reading, especially as someone trying to understand more the race dynamics of our day and age. This extract jumped out at me: [...]

By | 2017-09-20T10:07:37+00:00 September 15th, 2017|inspire-ations, thorts of other people, what i am reading|1 Comment

Oh man, we got a problem

We've been having some conversations online about what it means to be a real man, and how to treat women better. And while the choir is cheering us on, it is quite obvious that there is still a whole lot of work to be done. i am hoping that those who struggle with the race conversations will have a light come on when it comes to these conversations, because in some ways they are the [...]

More thoughts on ‘Thoughts on the New South Africa’ – Neville Alexander

i shared some of Neville Alexander's thoughts with regards to capitalism in my first post on his book, 'Thoughts on the New South Africa' which you can read over here. This is a second passage which stood out for me. In it, Neville Alexander speaks against the notion of fighting for top spot and creates a vision of the creatives and visionaries of the country helping create a road map to lead us to where [...]

My thoughts on ‘Thoughts on the New South Africa’ – Neville Alexander

i recently read 'Thoughts on the New South Africa' by Neville Alexander which my friend Ashley Visagie lent to me. Now for anyone who doesn't know Ashley Visagie, if the term 'thought leader' applies to anyone in South Africa with regards to education and poverty and identity and so much more, it would have to be him. So when he gives you a book, you read it. i'm not sure if i would have read [...]

By | 2017-08-25T09:03:52+00:00 August 25th, 2017|book vibes, thorts of other people, what i am reading|1 Comment

the question of anger

What do we do with anger on the internet? It's five days later and i have found writing part II of this anger piece pretty difficult. Part I dealt with Jesus and His take on anger and violence which was, in essence, a book study, and so pretty straightforward - this is what i read, this is how i interpret it... while now we are talking about people and a thousand of them so different [...]

Dear Fish: What do we do with the anger?

i received an email from a friend of mine on Facebook who is asking some questions that relate quite strongly to some stuff i have been giving a lot of thought to, especially this last week. i think it's a bit of a minefield, to be honest. But i also think it's high time we stepped into this one: Morning 😊 I've been thinking about ANGER and VIOLENCE. I think that so many people dismiss [...]