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Open Letter to School Principals in South Africa

Dear Principal, This week we have all been shocked and deeply dismayed to witness the Selborne College Class of 2017 scandal with the dog-faced Hector Pieterson photo incident. Another week, another SA school making the headlines for all the wrong reasons. I’m sure you hope your school isn’t next - there are no quick fix solutions, but there are proven strategies available to ensure you’re not. As the person overseeing an educational institution in South [...]

By | 2017-12-06T23:51:51+00:00 December 6th, 2017|#NotOnOurWatch, pain and Hope, South Africa|0 Comments

Why #MeToo can not be last week’s news

It's been a week since the #MeToo tag went viral. When women across social media platforms started sharing their stories, or simply putting their hands up to help us glimpse the extent of sexual abuse and harassment that so many of them face on a daily basis. Many of you may have read The Invisible Men piece i wrote, in which one of the main questions was, "Where are the men committing these acts and [...]

So what should we men do with #MeToo

It's been a week of #MeToo tags and stories and commentaries all over social media. i hope men have taken note as a lot of the sharing and commenting has been done by women. i hope that enough men have read my The Invisible Men post and started to think about who these men are that are doing these things that so many women have voiced. While many others have been unable to voice. i [...]

The invisible men

Where have all the bad men gone? i know i'm not friends with any of them, because none of my friends have come forward with a #MeToo signifying they were the perpetrator and not the victim. In case you're not sure what we're talking about, this is a response to a Twitterer campaign that went viral after actor Alyssa Milano posted this tweet: If you’ve been sexually harassed or assaulted write ‘me too’ as a [...]

Oh man, we got a problem

We've been having some conversations online about what it means to be a real man, and how to treat women better. And while the choir is cheering us on, it is quite obvious that there is still a whole lot of work to be done. i am hoping that those who struggle with the race conversations will have a light come on when it comes to these conversations, because in some ways they are the [...]

More thoughts on becoming a real man

Let me start with a little spoiler alert - the answer to becoming a real man is not going to have anything to do with punching sharks. Or knifing them. A couple of days ago i compiled this post with a number of suggestions for us men in terms of treating women better. It was spread around a lot and sparked a whole lot of conversation which was really great to watch and be a [...]

By | 2017-09-13T10:23:10+00:00 September 12th, 2017|#NotOnOurWatch, pain and Hope, things to wrestle with|2 Comments

Thoughts on being a real man

This is a status i posted on Facebook today which i thought would be a bit more easy to share as a blog post and i hope that men [in particular] who agree with what is written here, will share it on your wall and via your Twitterer accounts as a sign of saying you agree and are committed to being part Menfolk, listen up. On more than one occasion, my wife, Valerie, has been [...]