/Tag: women

Let’s build sandcastles together: An Open Letter to the Church

Dear Church [and in my brain i'm thinking church of Cape Town, but this really is good stuff for the church at large to hear], i have a deep love for you and a desire for you to be everything you were made to be. But it is a lot of love-hate relationship cos man, you confound me so much sometimes. Especially on the man bit. But i had a dream about you last night [...]

By | 2018-04-23T09:03:05+00:00 April 23rd, 2018|#NotOnOurWatch, church, God stuff, things to wrestle with|2 Comments

What Jessica Jones Season II trailer said to me

Jessica Jones is returning to Netflix and i couldn't be more stoked. One of the latest in a series of Marvel comic crossovers, Jessica Jones was most recently seen alongside Luke Cage, Daredevil and Iron Fist as part of the Defenders team trying desperately to save New York. It is a very dark series and one of the main reasons i stayed with it was probably because David Tennant [my all-time favourite portrayer of [...]

Why #MeToo can not be last week’s news

It's been a week since the #MeToo tag went viral. When women across social media platforms started sharing their stories, or simply putting their hands up to help us glimpse the extent of sexual abuse and harassment that so many of them face on a daily basis. Many of you may have read The Invisible Men piece i wrote, in which one of the main questions was, "Where are the men committing these acts and [...]

#MenAreTrash revisited

Some more thoughts on the #MenAreTrash hashtag i visited over here. Clearly #MenAreTrash has got people talking, which again is a good start, and hopefully people are looking deeper than just what feels like an offensive tag to some. So here are some follow up thoughts i wrote on FB: Here's a thought [not mine] - if we men are more upset by a #MenAreTrash hashtag than we are about the crimes committed against women [...]

By | 2017-05-14T08:13:31+00:00 May 14th, 2017|things to wrestle with, thorts of other people|7 Comments

You can’t “Give them a Voice”!

The other day i was on the bus coming back from camp chatting to someone and they spoke a line that sends electricity through my body [and not in a good way]. i think we were talking about my blog and the other person said something about, 'Giving them a voice.' i can never ever give anyone else a voice.  i can recognise and acknowledge and make space for and step out of the way [...]

Can’t they just stop having so many babies?

a guest post by my friend Sindile Mlingo Vabaza responding to a much made comment on this blog recently about people in poverty, although typically been aimed at black people, having too many babies as one of the main factors of their continued impoverishment: There are a lot of people out there who are putting up 'family planning' as the solution to certain societal ills in the country. I want to assert that this is [...]

#YesAllWomen: a lament

i go outside and sit on the top step in front of my apartment and look around... taking in the sights listening to the noise a family preparing for a celebration across the street the sound of a car backfiring, further down the road a laugh, an ambulance siren, a child's excited scream, the sound of two cats fighting, the music starting up and all seems normal this all feels right and good i pause [...]

on why rape [and violence to women in general] HAS to be taken seriously, part 1: attack on my wife

my wife was attacked in the street yesterday. fortunately not physically and thank God there were two Latino guys in a car nearby that she was eventually able to get to come to her assistance but even then they didn't really know what to do and the [can only assume he was completely drugged up] guy continued to threaten. many, many thoughts on this and the closest to the foreground is complete and utter thankfulness [...]

somebody, please MAKE IT STOP!!!

let me be honest, i am tired of all the Oscar Pistorius 'stuff' - i am tired of it and i wish it would go away. i am also deeply disturbed by it. i don't know that i completely understand why, altho i know it has something to do with the fact that it feels like almost everyone has an opinion, many people have made judgements, many others are just sending links and updates and [...]

for all the daters out there

so i have just posted the last [for now at least] post in the marriage series which ended up being a great 18 blog posts written by a whole bunch of my friends who are married well and passed along some really great marriage-enhancing advice and tips and wisdom. the beautiful Valerie ad myself might add some thorts of our own later but we're about to head for Texas to visit my sister and her [...]

By | 2011-11-18T17:19:47+00:00 November 18th, 2011|love and chocolate, relationships|1 Comment