so i have just posted the last [for now at least] post in the marriage series which ended up being a great 18 blog posts written by a whole bunch of my friends who are married well and passed along some really great marriage-enhancing advice and tips and wisdom. the beautiful Valerie ad myself might add some thorts of our own later but we’re about to head for Texas to visit my sister and her family…
anyways, looking at blog stats, this has been the second hugest blog visitation i have had with the largest being the series i did on dating and so i thort it would be good to repost links to some of those that were really popular in case you missed them and want to check out some insights on that area of life:
i think this was the intro blog to the series and links to future blogs…
a two parter written by the beautiful Val which is a must read as with most of what she writes…
and of course for the men – ‘i kissed dating, part Step up! [Both of you!] – for the Men?’
and then if you find any of those really helpful, there was a whole series of them that you could discover on my blogsite but just thort these would touch a different group than those who the marriage ones have been for… hope you find them helpful and if so please pass on…
The problem with the church is retreat and lack of confronation for the underlying issues which could result in a lot men coming across as spineless and not taking charge and being the designated God-fearing examples that we ought to be when it comes to the dating side of things-
Point # 1 : The porn issue -This is a factor and almost every single guy I know has had to struggle with this, it kills your confidence makes one objectify women & a guy who’s dealing with this obviously won’t have the courage or a sense of “Godly appeal” that makes the opposite sex in the church take a keen notice cause in my opinon the original “Godly dating” agenda has already been diminished, we can’t assume responsiblity to a spouse as the head if this is still our main achilies heel .
Point # 2 : A lot of people may diagree with me when it comes to this but it’s also a common denominator and it’s latent homosexual tendencies in men amongst the church & this is an ISSUE ! 60% of the men in the church may feel same sex attractions but because homosexuality is an abomination a lot of them sit in their repressed boxes and never deal and admit to what’s going on inside and happily admit to “confirmed bachelor” status ..If we are really going to embody Christ and who he was and his bold nature we would quit sweeping everything under the rug as though it were not an issue… And instead of the church being a source of comfort in terms of dealing with sexuality, it just becomes another burden to face .
God is not the author of confusion to conclude we are to blame for being incompetent representatives of who he is in essence and all I’m saying is that it’s time for us to be BOLD and be confrontational if we trust him to bring us through like he says he will !