honeymoon

when you’re dating someone, you only see them at specific times and so generally you are able to always look good for them, for the most part you will be putting in extra effort and they will more than often see you at your best.

it is also generally a time where you are often carried along by the emotion and the ‘feelings’ and the fresh raw excitement of the idea that this person of the opposite gender seems to want to keep hanging out with you and keeps returning those goofy no-you-hang-up type of smiles you’re giving out…

then you get married and that person is around all the time and they get to see the good, the bad and the ugly of you in terms of looks and attitude and behaviour and suddenly there is work and effort and intentionality involved because marriage is hard work. well it is if you want to do it well. for most people anyways. for me and Val at least.

it is amazing! hear that for sure. don’t get lost in the ‘marriage is work’ and hear ‘marriage is no fun’ or anything like that – i will continue to shout from the rooftops [slash my bed] that “Marriage to the right person is the most incredible thing!” [for those wanting to be married at least – if you’re single and loving that, then that is also the best]

and because it is incredible it is worth putting a monumental amount of work and effort into…

because it is amazing it is worth inviting the wisdom and advice of others who have walked and are walking this journey well…

because it is a good thing it is worth sharing your successes with others…

so watch this space as i share a few and invite some good friends to add their thoughts as well…

Dalene Reyburn shares with us about doing the next right thing

Robert Martin shares a touching story encompassing the theme of self sacrifice

Sheralyn Cloete encourages us to assume, but well

Brett Fish shares about the importance of being present

Rich Erasmus shares a short but incredibly profound exercise he felt so helpful in really listening to and hearing his wife…

Brett Fish talks about Loving your person in a way that they can best receive it

[if you’ve been married for a bit and think you have a ‘one way’ to share worth sharing, please email it to me at brettfish@hotmail.com and i will definitely consider sharing it – name, how long you’ve been married and your piece of experienced wisdom]