hokay so this is not so much a guest post as an article link but someone who has been reading and enjoying the dating series sent me this link to this dog whisperer episode [i have never seen dog whisperer, what, they run out of horses?] and it makes some pretty good points so worth a read... click your mouse on this place to read it...
and the search for revolutionary dating methodology continues... firstly some interesting thorts i read on my friend's blog linked to that whole 'Guys, Step up!' mentality of the girls. Girls, this is not an excuse, but provides some understanding of the guys place in this whole thing... "Telling a girl I liked her was about as difficult as trying to eat a tortoise whole. In my early 20s, internet-spawned relationships allowed me to keep this [...]
...and the discussion continues seeking out a Christ-following version of dating and relationships that is more effective than the model we have simply been borrowing from the world - beginning with a renewing of your mind and refusing to conform any longer to the pattern of this world. Somebody asked the question - what if we have already crossed the line physically with someone or some ones? There are two very important points to hear [...]
loving the discussion we've got happening around this topic - but you really should check this one out - wow, great post, very vulnerable and out there - guys and girls should read this - lots of truth... On dating and daring part I - click here to read On dating and daring part II - click here to read
got this great email from a good friend of mine who i will keep nameless, with some in-your-face honest and challenging questions/statements towards the end - could the problem be me? flip. [not me-me, you-me] Hi Brett My comment would be way too long, so thought I'd send an email instead. As a happy-ish single girl, who has loads of friends (many of whom are very nice, good-looking, Jesus-loving single men), is involved in the [...]
Jesus-loving single ladies, this blog is for you: i would love to hear from single Jesus-loving ladies who read this blog. This seems to be a really huge cry from Jesus-loving women out there and i really think it's important that we address it and hear both sides. I don't believe this is only a guy responsibility. I think there are issues on both sides of this dilemma and the best way to move forward [...]
i recently received an email from a friend of mine who is a girl who loves Jesus but is getting quite frustrated with the guys in her church not stepping up in the area of asking girls out [you can read the email and the responses i gave here] after posting it, i received a pretty huge number of responses from Christian young adult women going "Yeah, step up boys!" or something like that. someone [...]
some last thorts on this 'HOW FAR IS TOO FAR?' question... i want to expand a little on the TAKE YOUR TIME principle i mentioned. We live in a time of INSTANT GRATIFICATION - microwaves and sms's and takeaway coffee. This has affected our minds and lifestyles and we have gotten completely caught up in it and it is NOT ALWAYS A GOOD THING because there is NO SUCH THING AS AN INSTANT RELATIONSHIP. Some [...]
continuing with the HOW FAR IS TOO FAR question... finished the first part by saying this: So THE QUESTION you frame will sound a lot more like this – HOW CAN I LOVE AND RESPECT THIS PERSON i am in a relationship with to the extent that if the dating relationship ever ends, he/she does not walk away with A WHOLE LOT OF BAGGAGE [physically, emotionally...] and HOW MUCH CAN I SAVE OF MYSELF AND [...]
Belgium. i would say that Belgium is probably TOO FAR. Unless you're in Holland, cos then it's just like down the road or something... But in our recent history or being asked to speak or lead workshops on relationships, THE ONE QUESTION that the beautiful val and i GET ASKED WITHOUT FAIL is this one: HOW FAR IS TOO FAR? And the answer is very simple. ASK A BETTER QUESTION! Because with 'How far is [...]