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Taboo Topics: Pornography and Masturbation [Intro]

the next topic that i will be dealing with [and starting with my own story] is that of PORNOGRAPHY and MASTURBATION which are often closely linked together.

the idea of Taboo Topics is to take a topic that is very real [and often raw and painful, perhaps embarrassing or just difficult to speak about] but which no one, for various reasons, is speaking a lot about and to invite people who have had experience in that area to share their stories and perhaps offer some encouragement or advice to others who have experienced or are currently dealing with the same thing.

a lot of people suffer or struggle in silence and because no-one is speaking/writing about these things it can feel like you are along in it and are the only one and that no-one else can even begin to understand or appreciate what you are going through. and while each situation is different i think that often someone who has gone through the same type of situation is a lot more able to speak life, truth and encouragement or else able to simply cry/scream/wail in a language you completely understand.

so these are real stories of real people and for the most part people who have been brave enough to share their names and contact details [or are largely open to you being linked to them via me]

PORNOGRAPHY and MASTURBATION is a tricky one. as the saying goes, 92% of guys admit to masturbating, and the other 8% are lying. both masturbation and pornography have been seen as guy issues, often making women feel extremely alienated or like freaks if they are caught up in it, it almost being okay if a guy struggles with it cos that is expected, but surely no women do. i hope we will have some stories here in time that will show differently. the idea of Taboo Topics is not to definitively answer some of the issues we are facing – different people have had different journeys with different issues and so some peoples stories might be wildly different while some may even contradict in their advice or suggestion given. the idea is largely to share that you are not alone in your struggle – someone else has gone through this and a whole bunch of people have discovered freedom and forgiveness and rediscovered or are rediscovering sexual purity. another element with this particular one is that society and the church may have different viewpoints on this – it is important i think to remember that we live in a sex-saturated society that visually/orally/socially puts huge focus and emphasis on sex as the be all and end all and so what is considered ‘normal’ and ‘necessary’ comes with that starting point in mind. my hope is that whatever advice/suggestion/viewpoint people share you will test against scripture and trust that the Holy Spirit will guide you to all Truth and wholeness.

but the biggest thing to know is there is nothing that you have done that will make God love you any less [just as there is nothing you can do that can make Him love you any more] – there is freedom in Jesus and hopefully these stories will help some of you on your journey to get there:

to read about my story [brett “Fish” anderson] click here

to read the reblogged story of Bek Curtis, click here

to read the story of Catherine Rogers, click here

to read the story of Jaco Hall, click here

to read the story of Steve Heineman click here

to read the story from the point of view of the wife who married a Porn and Sex addict, click here

a very different – but helpful – take on the whole Pornography/Masturbation theme and the video you run over and over in your head

By |2017-01-17T11:27:57+00:00August 8th, 2012|activities, God stuff, Taboo Topics, thorts of other people|13 Comments

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Brett Fish is a lover of life, God, tbV [the beautiful Valerie] and owns the world's most famous stuffed dolphin, No_bob (who doesn't bob). He believes that we are all responsible for making the world a significantly better place for everyone.

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  4. Kevin Onsinyo January 8, 2013 at 12:17 am - Reply

    Great blog mate. Will look at your stuff more when time permits, God willing

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  7. David Fee September 27, 2013 at 2:11 am - Reply

    It is brave to talk about this subject Brett mainly coz so few people do, and as you say, it is one that causes a lot of embarrassment. I have to say that it is an area that is generally dealt with (or not dealt with) equally as badly by religious groups and by secular society, though for very different reasons perhaps. I disagree with this assertion you make though: “it is important i think to remember that we live in a sex-saturated society that visually/orally/socially puts huge focus and emphasis on sex as the be all and end all”

    I don’t think we live in a sex-saturated society. I think we live in an information saturated society. Sex has always been a big part of life. It’s just that now the private and local, is getting broadcast far and wide. So we’re confronted with sex, everyone’s sex, and pretty much everything else that goes on, more and more. But I think it is a massive generalisation to say that there is an “emphasis on sex as the be all and end all”. Except possibly on the Discovery channel.

    i would be interesting in writing something on this subject, if you wouldn’t mind a slightly different perspective. I appreciate the risk you’ve already taken as a Christian to ask me as a non-christian to contribute previously. So thanks for that. But this is a subject where you might feel that the boundary lines are less flexible. I’d totally understand if you felt it wasn’t appropriate.

    • brettfish September 27, 2013 at 5:52 am - Reply

      maybe sexuality saturated society? but it’s all around us and in our faces all the time – television, advertising in particular – sex or sex appeal or more possibly lust and misdirection to advertise cars and drinks and clothing and computer software [so everything really] – but i have no doubt about that – maybe ‘be all and end all’ is not the right phase but certainly sex and sexuality is used so strongly to advertise and lure and i would say beat down – the thriving sex trafficking industry is one example of how out of control it is – it really is modern day slavery and it is horrific the extent and depth of it – just even hearing some stories which i feel touch the surface.

      i would be interested to hear what you have to say on the topic – can’t guarantee a posting [would not do that with anyone or anything unless i am happy with it, which doesn’t mean ‘unless i agree with it or think the same’] but the likelihood is that if it feels like it fits in that it would get a post so please do write something and let’s see…

  8. freedom-truth-marriage March 25, 2014 at 1:18 pm - Reply

    Good post! I think we are starting to see (at least in some churches) this subject become more discussable (is that a word?)

    • brettfish March 25, 2014 at 3:25 pm - Reply

      If you used it, it is now. Thanks a lot and yes, more and more these conversations need to be brought into the light. Having coffee with someone later today to discuss their struggles with it.

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