Hm, April Fool’s Day vs. Bachelor Party? Tough choice.

And while many people see both of those in different more positive ways and brett fish anderson as a big giant killjoy at times cos you know, my heart and intention has always been to stop people having fun as much as possible… i see them both a little differently.

Some of this will be stuck record stuff to some of you, but let’s face it you already stopped reading…

April Fool’s Day Brett Fish Definition: Hey, let me celebrate a day by deceiving my friends and family and making them feel stupid or if i’m very lucky, hurt. Fake engagements and babies are the worst. It’s called lying and it makes people feel bad, so stop it. While i’ve never been a big fan of pranks in general, there are some that are genuinely funny and my line would be – If it’s fun for everyone, that’s quite possibly a good prank – if it’s fun for just you and those pulling the prank, probably not a good prank.

i remember back to Baptist Summer Camp and being the Bad Guy because i wanted to stop the one church [or churches] youth group from messing up other peoples stuff [sleep, sleeping bags, hair, clothes, equipment etc etc] – a prank they had been planning all year that was a lot of fun for those pulling the prank, but not so much fun for those on the receiving end. We had kids go home whose camp was ruined by someone messing with their stuff. Not a good prank!

Then we have the typical Bachelor’s party which i have spoken a lot about, especially as this last year for some reason i have been getting invited to a bunch of them again [at age 43 it pays to have young friends] and so sometimes my posts on Bachelor parties might be seen as timeous subliminal advertising or something. Have not been to one in the last year i’ve regretted and each one was fun and uplifting and trasnformative, so i’m sticking with that.

But back to the Bachelor Party Brett Fish Definition: Hey, let me celebrate one of my best mates who is about to get married by making him feel like a tit and possibly hurting him [in extreme cases influencing him to do stuff that his future wife would be deeply hurt by – fortunately i have never been to one of those – it would not end well!] i honestly just do not get that mentality and believe that 90% of it is repeating the things we have seen done before because “that’s how it’s always done” – that is true until you do it another way.

[In fact it would be super interesting to hear from some of the people i have influenced to change some of their plans for the bachelor parties they are organising to hear if in fact they would do it the same way again or return to their original plans… i suspect the former and at least one person has told me that!]

There you have it – i have not yet been online to see what April Fool’s Day jokes are happening. Some of them are really clever and some of them are really funny, but that should not be the measuring point. Have i increased relationship with people and created a fun story we can all bond over, or have i hurt or embarrassed or annoyed some people for my benefit.

Be safe out there everyone… [and make sure that’s sugar before you put it in!]