i've been wanting to get some different perspectives on this whole dating thing and so i asked my friend Terran if he would be able to write something on the one aspect of dating. And he said no. Something about having two children and a job or something... BUT what he did do for me [he is a super busy dude and i suspected he wouldn't have time so this is great] is send me [...]
i want to briefly look at the whole concept of 'the One' which i used to refer to as my Neo girl ala the Matrix... is there that one specific person that God has hand picked for me to date and marry? and i think the answer is no! ...except when it is yes! hm? well i think it links to the concepts of general will and specific will. a lot of the stuff in [...]
...continuing on the journeying of looking at how we date and how we could do better at it... this specific thort is very couple specific so for those who need to hear it, you REALLY need to hear it, whereas there are probably a whole bunch of people who don't [but you know people who do!] but i do think it is a healthy thing to give a quick look to. so the moment happens, [...]
hokay so this is not so much a guest post as an article link but someone who has been reading and enjoying the dating series sent me this link to this dog whisperer episode [i have never seen dog whisperer, what, they run out of horses?] and it makes some pretty good points so worth a read... click your mouse on this place to read it...
and the search for revolutionary dating methodology continues... firstly some interesting thorts i read on my friend's blog linked to that whole 'Guys, Step up!' mentality of the girls. Girls, this is not an excuse, but provides some understanding of the guys place in this whole thing... "Telling a girl I liked her was about as difficult as trying to eat a tortoise whole. In my early 20s, internet-spawned relationships allowed me to keep this [...]
...and the discussion continues seeking out a Christ-following version of dating and relationships that is more effective than the model we have simply been borrowing from the world - beginning with a renewing of your mind and refusing to conform any longer to the pattern of this world. Somebody asked the question - what if we have already crossed the line physically with someone or some ones? There are two very important points to hear [...]
loving the discussion we've got happening around this topic - but you really should check this one out - wow, great post, very vulnerable and out there - guys and girls should read this - lots of truth... On dating and daring part I - click here to read On dating and daring part II - click here to read
got this great email from a good friend of mine who i will keep nameless, with some in-your-face honest and challenging questions/statements towards the end - could the problem be me? flip. [not me-me, you-me] Hi Brett My comment would be way too long, so thought I'd send an email instead. As a happy-ish single girl, who has loads of friends (many of whom are very nice, good-looking, Jesus-loving single men), is involved in the [...]
Jesus-loving single ladies, this blog is for you: i would love to hear from single Jesus-loving ladies who read this blog. This seems to be a really huge cry from Jesus-loving women out there and i really think it's important that we address it and hear both sides. I don't believe this is only a guy responsibility. I think there are issues on both sides of this dilemma and the best way to move forward [...]
i recently received an email from a friend of mine who is a girl who loves Jesus but is getting quite frustrated with the guys in her church not stepping up in the area of asking girls out [you can read the email and the responses i gave here] after posting it, i received a pretty huge number of responses from Christian young adult women going "Yeah, step up boys!" or something like that. someone [...]