i don’t think we talk about Friendship enough.
in fact, i think too often, too many of us might take it for granted.
i don’t think i do. i am just so constantly made aware of how many incredible friends i have in and around my life – the term ‘best friend’ relates to at least 7 people i can think of straight away who are all ‘best friends’ in differing but equivalent ways.
and when i start listing quality friends, well i can just write a very long list without much thought at all.
those are the easy ones though – it is so easy to be friends with those people because what they bring to the party is immediately obvious and amazing and life-giving and so on. but then i read this comment about Eeyore the other day and it really struck me:
do i have any people like that in my life? do you?
and if not, is there someone who may be that person but we may not have invited them in to the group like Pooh and the gang above?
do our friends need to measure up to a certain level to earn the right and privilege of sticking around?
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a second thing when it comes to friendship is that as much as i LOVE to have fun and be silly and crazy and ridiculous with my friends [you know who you are!] i also very much like to think deeply and wrestle with faith and life and God and money and stuff and things. fortunately i have good mates that i can do both with. and for the most part find both of those things in a lot of my good friends which is great.
and in amongst a vomitarium of kitch and cheesy friendship quote posters on the Uncle Google, i managed to locate this gem, which i really like…
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the third thing i have mentioned a bunch of times, because i believe in it so strongly and i feel like these three pictures combinedly capture the essence of it:
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What about you? What do you look for in a friend? In fact, if you think of your best friend, what is the one characteristic that stands out for you in terms of something you realy appreciate in them?
i would LOVE to hear some of those.
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For me friendship is a two way street. The one person can’t be the one giving all the time while the other always takes. Both need to give and take. For example, you can’t always run to someone for help and support and a shoulder to cry on but then run away when that person needs a similar thing. Depending on what life throws at us there will be people who go through times where they will be needing a lot of support and others who don’t need as much because life is going well for them but the tables can always turn the other way when we least expect it.
i do think ideal friendships are two way but i also think there will be friendships in our life where we give more than we receive and probably also those where we receive more than we give simply because of the nature of context and people concerned – i think balance is good there and as long as you have both that is fine – if you get a person who always gives more than they receive or one who always receives more than they give i think you will have a problem…
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