Taboo Topics: Dealing with the grief of losing someone you love – Intro

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Taboo Topics: Dealing with the grief of losing someone you love – Intro

Grief is such a huge and too often taboo topic, possibly because different people grieve in different ways and so it is often hard to know what to say or do when someone has lost someone they love.

We have already looked at some powerful stories from people who have lost a baby and those who have lost a child, but what about someone who has lost a person who has been in their life for even longer?

My friend, Catherine Rogers, asked me some questions on this recently:

I remember the first funeral I ever attended. A close friend’s father had committed suicide and a sadder occasion I have never experienced since. It was then that I first began to wonder: how does a person cope with such a loss. It’s devastating, it’s life altering and it’s absolutely incomprehensible to me. You see, I haven’t yet lost anyone close to me but I have watched as the people around me have, and every time I wonder, how do you do it? How on earth do you move on? I myself am not afraid to die and I accept that death is a part of life and everyone must face it in the end. But something which scares me deeply and rests heavily on my heart, is losing someone: being left behind. 

What happens when you lose someone who is such an integral part of your own existence? How do you deal with such an event? I feel this, for me at least, fits into your taboo topics easily. Do you ever find that you’re too afraid to mention aloud or even think about the death of someone you love just in case it might actually happen? I do because while I understand the undeniable eventuality of death, I do not understand what happens after: the coping, the acceptance, the moving on. Are these things really possible when an important part of your life is gone forever? 

So this is an invitation to those of you who might have lost a family member or a friend, someone who was close to you, to share your story with us and to maybe touch on some of these questions. How have you been able to cope and move on and continue with ‘normal life’ and is life ever ‘normal’ again?

I am hoping that for a lot of people, simple being able to put their story into words here might help to be some small part of the healing.

Meet Tarryn Patel – who lost her sister, Lauren Kirkwood

Meet Cambria Hooven – who lost her mom Judie

Meet Kim Overbeck – who lost the love of her life, Tegan

When Sickness or Tragedy strikes – in the wake of my best mate Rob’s death a few of us came up with some ways to help those facing the tragedy which might be helpful for you to post for others to read.

About the Author:

Brett Fish is a lover of life, God, tbV [the beautiful Valerie] and owns the world's most famous stuffed dolphin, No_bob (who doesn't bob). He believes that we are all responsible for making the world a significantly better place for everyone.


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  5. mariaholm Jul 4, 2015 at 4:08 pm - Reply

    When my mother died I just isolated myself in her house. It was so strange to be there and she had just left the arena. I knew the situation would come as I am an adult and she was 80, but it was the one thing in life I had feared most to lose her. Life goes on I am the ” old generation” now, but I think about her everyday and on what she meant for me. I hope I managed to tell her in time

    • brettfish Jul 5, 2015 at 1:18 am - Reply

      Thank you for sharing, Maria. From how you describe your bond with her, i imagine she knew. We all cope with death in different ways and for me i find that the people who remain in my life are my biggest comfort and strength…

      • mariaholm Jul 5, 2015 at 9:15 am - Reply

        Thank you for answering me here. I was inspired to write a post about her from your post and will use the “press this” function to connect. I hope it’s all right

        • brettfish Jul 5, 2015 at 10:43 am - Reply

          If you would like to email it to me at with a picture then i can possibly post it in my Taboo Topics section if that would feel good to you…

          • mariaholm Jul 5, 2015 at 10:46 am

            O yes if you prefer than, I just made a draft yesterday and I used the function” press this” to relate to your post. It’s just a collection of memories of her birthdays through her life

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  7. theeternalmuslimah Aug 6, 2015 at 10:16 am - Reply

    Grief is the way we heal from the loss of a loved one. Seemingly a devastating process but one that bears so many hidden fruits because Allah is a loving, mercifull God

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