[1] Is there something i can learn today from someone else?
[2] When i stand in front of the mirror and reflect on the person i am in this moment, is there something obvious that needs to change?
[3] Who are the people in my life i can ask about those things that might be more subtle in who i am right now that could perhaps use some attention and work to help make me into a better person?
[4] What is one thing i am doing this week that is going to make life better for someone else?
[5] Is there someone i need to apologise to for something i said or did yesterday?
[6] What is a longer term goal that i am busy working at this week [exercise, relationship, project, dream?]?
[7] Am i living out my beliefs in all areas of my life?
[8] What contradiction or aspect of hypocrisy exists in my life right now?
[9] What addiction am i feeding or caught up in?
[10] What is one aspect of the way i live or the things i believe that is currently being challenged? Am i wrestling that out with my people?
Hi
1. Yep, always. Also if I don’t know something I Google it and someone else knows the answers.
2. Maybe more hair… But don’t look in the mirror much as its depressing… Sometimes… Lol
3. Not too sure of the question? I think people just volunteer info when I mess up.
4. Work, earning, supporting family. I help others where I can with food or tins of food I don’t use that might expire.
5. Yes, I was impatient with the delivery guy at work. He did have a very bad attitude as he wanted me to fill out firms for a delivery, when it’s his job. Oh well. Maybe next time they will have it completed their side.
6. Exercise, yes I gym. Hard to in this winter but still going. Also work projects.
7. Sometimes but then my beliefs keep changing from one month to the next. Maybe over the years more cynical.
8. I overspend a bit and sometimes go into credit to buy liquor. That makes me feel guilty.
9. I think alcohol or drinking too much. Not to get drunk, but every night a glass of wine I can’t afford.
10. I’m not sure what you mean by people. I’d say I’m challenged to be more with with money. Also to force myself to cook at home and not take out. Also to try study an hour per day.
Let’s hear your ones. Thanks for the article
Johan
What are you thinking when it comes to credit cards. I have 3 and I often get into the red. I go on these sprees to buy clothes, order books or things online. Then minus 30k and it’s payback for the year.
How does one stop this habit?
If I am in the red, and a beggar asks for money should I feel guilty if I can’t help him. I do if it’s credit for booze or wine. But if it’s because of rent or living expenses then I don’t feel guilty.
Is it bad to live with guilt?
hey Johan, thanks for stopping by, the point of the questions was more for people to use one or more of them to reflect on to see if there is something in their life that needs changing but i appreciate you sharing your answers but that is why i didn’t share mine. i want them to be a catalyst for thought rather than a test for answers.
In terms of your credit card question my wife and i have done our best to avoid all forms of debt completely – what this does mean is that we have some tough choices like not having medical plan or insurance but we do have some money put aside for medical emergencies but also hope that within community [church, friends, family altho some of those overlap] we will be able to help each other with needs – i love the idea of community insurance where a group of people commit to each other rather than to a program… we have one credit card which we use as a debit card so never overspend on it but sometimes using a credit card is cheaper or for flights it gives you insurance so we have one but don’t use it as one – also that saves us from huge interest on it – so spend within our means and if we can’t afford something we generally go without. i would do what you can to get in the black again and then if needs be cut your credit cards up or commit to only spending money what you have which will also free you up to help others around you who are in need…
Thank you for your honesty
love brett fish
Please looking for Vanessa bothma on Facebook. She is a black girl who was adopted by white parents. She wrote this. Wow.
My mother’s father, who disowned her when she adopted me, passed away a month ago. She did not go to his funeral and I didn’t see her cry.
When another family member gave us the news, Mother went on with her day like nothing had happened, and I didn’t know if I should say something or not so I didn’t.
But she showed me a few photos and memories of her childhood today. How her father had helped her to build a treehouse. How they played in the mud together. Homemade birthday cards with beautiful father-daughter poetry. He wrote them all in cursive. There’s a specific photo of him smiling down at her with so much pride and love that my eyes watered – as if all that mattered to him, all that he cared and lived for, was the little girl sleeping in his arms. She cried, and it broke me.
I did not know he wrote poetry.
I did not know he had once loved her, and she, him.
Growing up I was focused on my own pain. I’ve only now wondered how painful it must be to be rejected and ridiculed by the man she once trusted and looked up to. How it must feel to have to choose between a child and her own father.
I can still see the disgust on his face.
I can still hear him say, “No daughter of mine would adopt a kaffir child.”
And yet, I feel sad that he died.
……..
Wow hey! Also please lookup Aaron Phiri, a very well read and reasonable black guy. Befriend the 2 of them on Facebook and use your circle to show their writing.
Vanessa who is only 20 about, just adopted a black orphan baby. Amazing young lady. Maybe she could do an article for your site. Aaron and Vanessa are examples that make it feel good to be South African. And you of course!