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Married People Tips #31-35

Some more marriage advice for you as we head into our final ten: Marriage Tip #31 Walk. Now i imagine there will be varying degrees of this for different people. i also imagine some couples will roll their eyes and instantly dismiss this because walking (and that's not your vibe). But i would suggest (with less exceptions than people who think they are the exceptions) that the amount you collectively enjoy walking or not should [...]

By |2018-12-10T11:35:35+00:00December 10th, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Married People Tips #26-30

The next five married tips to help you think about and act on how to do marriage well: Marriage Tip #26 Rage, Rage against the selfishness of the me. Just as online people tend towards stupid [a brettfish original], offline people tend towards selfish. In a world that has at times whispered but more often shouted 'THIS IS ALL ABOUT YOU!' into your ear as it has watched you grow up, this should not be [...]

By |2018-12-10T11:36:52+00:00December 10th, 2018|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|1 Comment

Married People Tips #21-25

Marriage Tip #21 Tend towards the cleaner one. Now this is not to much specifically a marriage tip as it is a people-who-live-in-the-same-space tip and i probably observed this more living in community with tbV and others in Philly than with just me and Val. But it can be huge. The person who hates breadcrumbs on the counter is MUCH MORE emotionally invested than the person who doesn't care [or notice] breadcrumbs on the counter. [...]

By |2018-12-10T09:48:27+00:00November 26th, 2018|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|1 Comment

Married People Tips #16-20

Marriage Tip #16 Communication. Work at it. i touched on this yesterday when mentioning Expectation as missed expectations can be a huge source of conflict or resentment in marriage. And someone mentioned Communication which is key to having a healthy marriage. We looked at the five love languages in tip 5 and in some ways, i think communication works in a similar way. We communicate in different ways and we hear things or retain them [...]

Married People: Tips #11-15

Marriage Tip #11 My friend Robert Martin, who recently lost his wife, asked if he could share a tip and having gone through this with a best friend before i can echo so much of this: Treasure EVERY moment... I, unfortunately, sit in a place where my other half is no longer around to exercise tips 1-10. And there is much regret that I'm wrestling with. Time that we BOTH wasted in our lives together [...]

By |2018-11-21T08:41:43+00:00November 16th, 2018|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|3 Comments

Married People: Tips #6-10

Marriage Tip #6 Be quick to deal with issues. The bible [whether you believe in it or not] has this great piece of wisdom: 'In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.' There are times when anger might be a justified response to something but the key is not letting that anger cause you to hurt your [...]

By |2018-11-20T10:06:06+00:00November 11th, 2018|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage|2 Comments

Married People Tips #1-5

Married People Tip #1 Find things to do together. Find things to do apart. Either of these extremes can be detrimental to a marriage and the balance will no doubt differ between marriages but typically i imagine there are some things you will find that you love to do together [for us that includes boardgames, weekend walks, certain series, challenging conversations, dressing up crazy to meet people at airports] and other things that you prefer [...]

By |2018-11-11T22:42:16+00:00November 6th, 2018|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage|4 Comments

How to Save a Marriage… before you need to. [part xvii]

this great marriage-enhancing advice is from a friend of mine, Clint Botha, whose friendship has grown a lot since we both ended up in different countries and went virtual... By no means do I consider myself and Karin some kind of pro married couple (although that would be an awesome competition and/or reality tv show). We have only been at this thing for 6 years and a bit, but these are the things we have [...]

By |2011-11-17T04:40:35+00:00November 17th, 2011|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|2 Comments

How to Save a Marriage… before you need to. [part ix]

my friend Rob takes the advice on how to create a strong marriage thing in a bit of a different direction with this solid advice: Lock the escape hatch and throw away the key. With no way out we are left to work through our challenges together and become the purposed display or shadow of Christ and his bride to the world. On a practical level: - Give yourselves to the process of holiness more [...]

By |2011-11-13T06:21:23+00:00November 13th, 2011|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|2 Comments

How to Save a Marriage… before you need to. [part v]

Continuing the series where I asked a bunch of my friends who I think are in healthy marriages to share a key or two about what they have found helps make their marriage work well: Pray together often. Hug, kiss and say I love you every day. say thank you often, for the little things like taking out the trash - genuinely appreciate each other. one I am especially bad at - really listen without [...]

By |2011-11-10T14:50:00+00:00November 10th, 2011|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|1 Comment