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Married People Tips #31-35

Some more marriage advice for you as we head into our final ten: Marriage Tip #31 Walk. Now i imagine there will be varying degrees of this for different people. i also imagine some couples will roll their eyes and instantly dismiss this because walking (and that's not your vibe). But i would suggest (with less exceptions than people who think they are the exceptions) that the amount you collectively enjoy walking or not should [...]

By |2018-12-10T11:35:35+00:00December 10th, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Married People Tips #26-30

The next five married tips to help you think about and act on how to do marriage well: Marriage Tip #26 Rage, Rage against the selfishness of the me. Just as online people tend towards stupid [a brettfish original], offline people tend towards selfish. In a world that has at times whispered but more often shouted 'THIS IS ALL ABOUT YOU!' into your ear as it has watched you grow up, this should not be [...]

By |2018-12-10T11:36:52+00:00December 10th, 2018|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|1 Comment

Married People Tips #21-25

Marriage Tip #21 Tend towards the cleaner one. Now this is not to much specifically a marriage tip as it is a people-who-live-in-the-same-space tip and i probably observed this more living in community with tbV and others in Philly than with just me and Val. But it can be huge. The person who hates breadcrumbs on the counter is MUCH MORE emotionally invested than the person who doesn't care [or notice] breadcrumbs on the counter. [...]

By |2018-12-10T09:48:27+00:00November 26th, 2018|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|0 Comments

Married People Tips #16-20

Marriage Tip #16 Communication. Work at it. i touched on this yesterday when mentioning Expectation as missed expectations can be a huge source of conflict or resentment in marriage. And someone mentioned Communication which is key to having a healthy marriage. We looked at the five love languages in tip 5 and in some ways, i think communication works in a similar way. We communicate in different ways and we hear things or retain them [...]

Married People: Tips #11-15

Marriage Tip #11 My friend Robert Martin, who recently lost his wife, asked if he could share a tip and having gone through this with a best friend before i can echo so much of this: Treasure EVERY moment... I, unfortunately, sit in a place where my other half is no longer around to exercise tips 1-10. And there is much regret that I'm wrestling with. Time that we BOTH wasted in our lives together [...]

By |2018-11-21T08:41:43+00:00November 16th, 2018|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|3 Comments

Married People: Tips #6-10

Marriage Tip #6 Be quick to deal with issues. The bible [whether you believe in it or not] has this great piece of wisdom: 'In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.' There are times when anger might be a justified response to something but the key is not letting that anger cause you to hurt your [...]

By |2018-11-20T10:06:06+00:00November 11th, 2018|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage|2 Comments

Married People Tips #1-5

Married People Tip #1 Find things to do together. Find things to do apart. Either of these extremes can be detrimental to a marriage and the balance will no doubt differ between marriages but typically i imagine there are some things you will find that you love to do together [for us that includes boardgames, weekend walks, certain series, challenging conversations, dressing up crazy to meet people at airports] and other things that you prefer [...]

By |2018-11-11T22:42:16+00:00November 6th, 2018|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage|4 Comments

Taboo Topic: When Marriage is Hard – meet Catherine and Alastair

Marriage can be amazing. But it is not always the easiest of things. My friend Catherine shares some of her journey with Alastair: “So how’s married life treating you?” My husband and I look at each other, shake our heads slightly and smile. It’s everybody’s favourite question but nobody wants the honest answer. We’ve stopped telling our friends the truth and started telling them what they want to hear. “Yeah, marriage is good. All good, [...]

Seven years anniversary reflections.

i considered titling this post "Seven years a slave" for the clickbait effect, but didn't for two reasons: [1] That would be horribly offensive to slaves and slavery and the ongoing pseudo-slavery that still happens in many places around the world. [2] That would be horribly offensive to marriage and married people. And especially tbV [the beautiful Val]. People who make jokes or digs or insinuations about marriage being like slavery or a prison sentence [...]

By |2016-07-14T08:43:36+00:00July 14th, 2016|activities, relationships, shtupidt people|3 Comments

A moving post

Just to clarify, that is NOT us. Or if it is us, then what's going on behind the boxes is quite likely to NOT be mirroring what you see on the outside. If you were to look REALLY carefully, perhaps you would see tiny little drops of salty liquid dripping down from under the boxes. Yes, ladies and gentlemen [and blog trolls!] we move home in three days... A MOVING MARRIAGE Which technically will be [...]

By |2016-03-22T07:42:42+00:00March 22nd, 2016|activities, love and chocolate, pain and Hope|0 Comments