How to Save a Marriage… before you need to. [part xii]

...and the series continues, and will continue to [i still have a bunch of posts to come and some very long ones] because i think this is becoming an incredible resource and because you don't necessarily have to read and ingest it all now - bookmark it, print it out, come back to it later, read it with your spouseperson and speak about what things you can add to or subtract from your marriage to [...]