Continuing the series where I asked a bunch of my friends who I think are in healthy marriages to share a key or two about what they have found helps make their marriage work well: Pray together often. Hug, kiss and say I love you every day. say thank you often, for the little things like taking out the trash - genuinely appreciate each other. one I am especially bad at - really listen without [...]
Continuing the series where I asked a bunch of my friends who I think are in healthy marriages to share a key or two about what they have found helps make their marriage work well. Here are thoughts from my sister-in-law: I think one of the biggest things that makes our marriage work for us is our communication. Communication when joking together, communication when talking, communication when sharing feelings, communication when showing our love for [...]
Continuing the series where I asked a bunch of my friends who I think are in healthy marriages to share a key or two about what they have found helps make their marriage work well. Here are thoughts from my brother-in-law: We communicate about everything, no matter how trivial it might seem. We clear stuff up immediately, a small issue which is resolved immediately remains just a small issue but many unresolved small issues build [...]
Ever since the beautiful val and i got married, God has put relationships [and especially marriage] strongly on my heart as something to pour into, not only for us, but others as well… so i asked a bunch of my married friends [who i think are married well] for one thing that they see as vital/helpful to having a good marriage: "Work as a team. You both want the team to win, so won't want [...]
if you are a single person, then embrace that, completely. hope to be married if that is your dream, but be absolutely content with where you are and living in it, til the opportunity arises. don't live where you're not. if you are a married person, then embrace that, completely. be content with what you have, while always striving for more. if you are not constantly working at your marriage, then you may soon discover [...]
and the search for revolutionary dating methodology continues... firstly some interesting thorts i read on my friend's blog linked to that whole 'Guys, Step up!' mentality of the girls. Girls, this is not an excuse, but provides some understanding of the guys place in this whole thing... "Telling a girl I liked her was about as difficult as trying to eat a tortoise whole. In my early 20s, internet-spawned relationships allowed me to keep this [...]
...and the discussion continues seeking out a Christ-following version of dating and relationships that is more effective than the model we have simply been borrowing from the world - beginning with a renewing of your mind and refusing to conform any longer to the pattern of this world. Somebody asked the question - what if we have already crossed the line physically with someone or some ones? There are two very important points to hear [...]
Jesus-loving single ladies, this blog is for you: i would love to hear from single Jesus-loving ladies who read this blog. This seems to be a really huge cry from Jesus-loving women out there and i really think it's important that we address it and hear both sides. I don't believe this is only a guy responsibility. I think there are issues on both sides of this dilemma and the best way to move forward [...]
some last thorts on this 'HOW FAR IS TOO FAR?' question... i want to expand a little on the TAKE YOUR TIME principle i mentioned. We live in a time of INSTANT GRATIFICATION - microwaves and sms's and takeaway coffee. This has affected our minds and lifestyles and we have gotten completely caught up in it and it is NOT ALWAYS A GOOD THING because there is NO SUCH THING AS AN INSTANT RELATIONSHIP. Some [...]
Belgium. i would say that Belgium is probably TOO FAR. Unless you're in Holland, cos then it's just like down the road or something... But in our recent history or being asked to speak or lead workshops on relationships, THE ONE QUESTION that the beautiful val and i GET ASKED WITHOUT FAIL is this one: HOW FAR IS TOO FAR? And the answer is very simple. ASK A BETTER QUESTION! Because with 'How far is [...]