my wife, whom i love, both because i can and because she is well worth it has written another blog in her series on how to love your man better and if you click this piece of writing here it will mystically transport you there so you might be reading of it...
so back in new year's times i met a guy called gabe at an event i was mc'ing and it wasn't the greatest of meetings - we had a difference of opinion over some or other thing, i blogged about it without using his name (altho everyone who had been at the event knew who i was talking about) and he (and more particularly his friends) didn't like that i did that so much (some [...]
part two in my beautiful wife Valerie's series on how to love your man better... http://valanderson.wordpress.com/2011/02/17/how-to-love-your-man-better-respond-to-his-character
so recently i ran a series of repeat blog posts about how to love your woman better and someone made a request for how to do the loving of your man better and so the beautiful val has taken the challenge and here is the first one - please check it out and respond... http://valanderson.wordpress.com/2011/02/02/how-to-love-your-man-better-just-love-him
if you are married or going out: forget the myth that love is a feeling - if love is purely a feeling your relationship is doomed - run, run and keep running - cos feelings are context-linked, situation-dependent and none of us can stay on top of all of our contexts and situations - bad stuff happens, we hurt each other (hopefully by mistake) and the feeling is not always there... that's when choice come [...]
There is another verse in the Bible that says, “Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry” and since most of us have no real effect on stopping the sun from its nightly perceived movement away from us, i guess that means it makes a lot more sense for us to concentrate on the ‘stop being angry’ part... and it’s linked to the not keeping a record of wrongs. And so one [...]
this part added by my wife, TBV: Step away from the emotion of the moment. I really struggle to think clearly, reason well, and see things from Brett’s point of view, when I am caught up in the emotion of the immediate argument. I may be hurting, angry, frustrated, sad, feeling sorry for myself, or incredibly teary. I often cannot think straight at all and this results in me “blanking out” – literally shutting out [...]
I don’t think tbV and i are there yet, in fact i know we’re not. It’s definitely a work in progress and there is definitely progress because we are working on it. We argue a lot better (in terms of nicer, friendlier, love-lier) than we used to when we were going out, but we can do even better. But there are definitely some principles we can share from what we do take care to do. [...]
so the other nite we were hanging with some mates from church at our place and the giant of the group (aptly named klein (small) frans) came up with this saying “the God i believe in is not the God you don’t believe in” which i think is brilliant and which i blog posted and made my status line on facebook and twitter (some might say ‘overkill’ – i might say ‘collective ramifications’ but just [...]
another excerpt from Erwin McManus 'an unSTOPPABLE force' - just buy it already! 'And though i'm advocating our need to become a movement, I would like to encourage you to give up on keeping up.' then a little later: 'The first-century church didn't keep up with its time, didn't spend its energy keeping up with its time. The first-century church changed time. It rewrote history. It radically impacted culture. The church was the forerunner, not [...]