love and chocolate : Brett Fish

i kissed dating, part get to know the person first

i really believe this is ONE OF THE FUNDAMENTAL KEYS to a REVOLUTIONISED SYSTEM OF DATING... there is a trend that happens specifically in christian contexts (altho i am sure there are equivalent secular contexts that promote the same thing - like actors making a movie together for example) which contributes to a lot of debris in relationships WHICH COULD EASILY BE AVOIDED... the mathematical equation reads something like 'bunch of christian guys' + 'bunch [...]

By brettfish|2018-12-14T13:37:22+02:00March 14th, 2011|change the world, love and chocolate, relationships|13 Comments

how to love your man better c/o tbV – be nice

my wife, whom i love, both because i can and because she is well worth it has written another blog in her series on how to love your man better and if you click this piece of writing here it will mystically transport you there so you might be reading of it...

By brettfish|2011-03-13T11:42:46+02:00March 13th, 2011|change the world, love and chocolate, marriage, the beautiful Val (tbV), thorts of other people|0 Comments

and have not love, i am a clanging Bell?

i am completely over the whole rob bell public bashing, public defending, long back-and-forth status comments thing and so i am hoping this will be my last post on the matter, but i think this is a valid point [and the title which i thort of as i came in here to write is pretty relevant as well] i recently read this comment at the end of another long rob bell - is he a [...]

By brettfish|2011-03-05T11:19:48+02:00March 5th, 2011|challenging thorts, God stuff, love and chocolate, world news|25 Comments

as simple as a cup of coffeeine

i made my beautiful wife val a cup of coffee in bed this morning as i do most mornings... she thanked me for it and i said it was a pleasure, and completely meant it... in fact as i was walking down the stairs i was thinking that it is a pleasure every single time... and how that should be normal - i really dig making my wife coffee or tea or a glass of [...]

By brettfish|2011-03-01T11:52:10+02:00March 1st, 2011|love and chocolate, marriage, the beautiful Val (tbV)|2 Comments

how to love your man better (by tbV) – part respond to his character

part two in my beautiful wife Valerie's series on how to love your man better... http://valanderson.wordpress.com/2011/02/17/how-to-love-your-man-better-respond-to-his-character

By brettfish|2011-02-20T22:54:14+02:00February 20th, 2011|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, the beautiful Val (tbV)|0 Comments

brilliant article on love

this morning i gave a brief talk at somerset college on the difference between God's love and our (worldly) love and it went really well - but then the beautiful val sent me this link to this article on the relevant magazine site which i really think is so toyoda'ly written in terms of really capturing a lot of what it is about... check it out here... and please pass it on - so, so, [...]

By brettfish|2011-02-11T23:25:19+02:00February 11th, 2011|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, relationships|0 Comments

how to love your man better (by not me)

so recently i ran a series of repeat blog posts about how to love your woman better and someone made a request for how to do the loving of your man better and so the beautiful val has taken the challenge and here is the first one - please check it out and respond... http://valanderson.wordpress.com/2011/02/02/how-to-love-your-man-better-just-love-him

By brettfish|2011-02-02T14:33:33+02:00February 2nd, 2011|change the world, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, the beautiful Val (tbV)|4 Comments

re-post: married? you got to fight.

i was sitting in the back of the church meeting yesterday when a couple (who have been married for less than three years) arrived and she came and sat in front of me and he stood at the back of the room to the one side… it was obvious to me that they were having some kind of negative vibe – she was obviously stressed and every now and then would look across at him [...]

By brettfish|2011-01-17T07:06:33+02:00January 17th, 2011|change the world, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|0 Comments

How to Love your Woman better part ‘Saying it’

If you are married: Tell her you love her. Tell her often. Don't ever get bored or tired or let it become a cliche (or a quiche cos that would be weird) and so mean it every time. But say the words. Don't assume she knows. Tell her again. If you are dating: Don't tell her you love her, til you really mean it. And that might mean different things to different people but love [...]

By brettfish|2018-12-14T13:02:25+02:00January 14th, 2011|change the world, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|3 Comments

How to Love your Woman better part ‘Choosing This Day’

if you are married or going out: forget the myth that love is a feeling - if love is purely a feeling your relationship is doomed - run, run and keep running - cos feelings are context-linked, situation-dependent and none of us can stay on top of all of our contexts and situations - bad stuff happens, we hurt each other (hopefully by mistake) and the feeling is not always there... that's when choice come [...]

By brettfish|2018-12-14T12:53:56+02:00January 13th, 2011|change the world, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|6 Comments