We met Bek Curtis last week and she has kindly agreed to let me post her follow-up to the post she shared with us on her struggles with and victory over Pornography. So here is a repost of her unplanned part II, titled 'The 'How' of Freedom': I find myself writing once again on the topic of pornography, and once again writing with reluctance, fueled this time by different motivators. I had a few people [...]
We met Bek Curtis last week and she has kindly agreed to let me post her follow-up to the post she shared with us on her struggles with and victory over Pornography. So here is a repost of her unplanned part II, titled 'The 'How' of Freedom': I find myself writing once again on the topic of pornography, and once again writing with reluctance, fueled this time by different motivators. I had a few people [...]
For this final part of my series on lies I believed about sex I want to talk about the false expectation many people are given that because sex is intended for marriage, as soon as you get married you will be able to fully express yourself sexually without experiencing guilt or shame. Of the four things I touched on in my Relevant article, this was the one people seemed to resonate with the most. Many [...]
There is this pervasive myth, particularly prevalent in the evangelical Christian subculture (though I’d argue it’s present in other parts of society too) that boys are sexual and girls (at least good girls) aren’t. In my article for Relevant I called this the lie that “Girls don’t care about sex.” If you are anything like me, you have countless times heard things like “Men think about sex all the time” and “Men are very visual [...]
Perhaps the most often-encountered lie I heard about sex from youth pastors, conference speakers, inspirational books, and the impassioned speeches of parents was the idea that if you wait until you are married to have sex, God will reward you with mind-blowing sex and a magical wedding night. For those of you who don’t believe there are individuals, churches, and organizations who teach this, here are some ACTUAL QUOTES on the subject: “For you, the [...]
The first myth I pointed out in my Relevant article was this idea that “Any and all physical contact is a like a gateway drug to sex.” Growing up, I frequently heard metaphors like, “Don’t start the engine if you aren’t ready to drive the car” used to warn teenagers that any physical contact (including holding hands and kissing) was a slippery slope straight into the jaws of fornication. Let me be clear. There is some [...]
So i now have a few great things written about this topic and was struggling to find the best place to put them so i thought i would create this space over here: Let's Talk about Sex - my friend Lily Dunn exposes '4 Lies the Church Taught her about Sex' Sex Before Marriage - one of those topics that keeps coming up that there are a variety of opinions on - with input from [...]
“I’ve heard people say that growing up as an evangelical Christian meant they never talked about sex. That wasn’t my experience. I grew up in the thick of evangelical purity culture and we talked about sex A LOT. We just spent all of that time talking about how and why NOT to have it. As someone who followed all of the rules and waited until I was married to have sex, I was assured that [...]
This is a repost of a blog by permission which was originally posted on her blog, 'Perfectly Flawed' - meet Bek Curtis: Lust. Sex. Porn. If those words made you squirm, you may not want to read ahead. Likewise, if you’re of the prudish variety, because here I openly, albeit reluctantly, share with you my experience of, and thoughts on, pornography. Reluctant, because people can be jerks. Some people refuse to see the transformational work of [...]
continuing with another excerpt from the most amazing poetry book i have ever read [and while this is a really small set of things, that doesn't diminish the amazingness of this book one bit] by my online friend, Michael Toy, titled 'Blame it on the Huehuetenango' and this poem in particular which he calls 'My First Last Day' being reminded that the subtitle of this book is 'Poetry for the Recovering Evangelical' and so specifically [...]