I married my lovely photographer wife Sam on the 28th of January 2012, on a beautifully sunny day under some trees in Port Elizabeth. We’d led our church’s youth group together but had never been interested in each other romantically, and it felt like God just opened our eyes at the right time. There’s honestly so much to say about marriage – so many lessons, metaphors, parallels. One thing I know, though, and it applies [...]
This year I’ve been married five years. WHOA. It seems really long but at the same time, it seems to have passed by so quickly. Mine was different to most because Matt and I started out our married life by having a baby one month into being married. (Long story for another day but God used and still is using our journey through that immensely for His glory!) If that’s not being thrown into the [...]
when i asked Kate if she would write me a piece for this series, she ended up with a much longer post which i asked if i could share as part of the Taboo Topics series on Singleness that has been so encouraging to so many people and she agreed. but i still wanted to keep the end of this article and share it as part of this series as it gives a person with [...]
The relationship between Sean and I, like all couples like to affirm, is unique. We got married when I was 21 and he was 24, he had just returned from a working year in Norway and I had just completed my first year in theology, he was bearded with scruffy surfer’s hair and I was clean and caffeinated.People said things would change, that living together would be a huge adjustment and that the first two [...]
Challenges seem to be our forte. In the 4 years we have been married, Nate and I have struggled through some pretty rough times. We both agree that last year was the hardest time in our lives. In the same week in February, Nate lost his job and I was diagnosed with an incurable disease, a disease that was threatening to kill me. If I were to tell you that we just turned the other [...]
We got married on 5 February 2011 – and have just celebrated our third anniversary – we made it!! Year three was hands down the hardest for us so far, & we have had to learn how to be a team in really difficult circumstances. Practically life was challenging on pretty much all fronts, and our marriage took a lot of strain. From the beginning of our relationship ‘love as a choice’ has been a [...]
Busisiwe Ledibane, 22 The other day I went to my little cousin’s school and came across two little girls on the way to the bathroom. As I entered the staff toilets, they approached the door and one said, “You’re not allowed in there.” “I’m not a child,” I responded, trying not to sound hostile, although I ended up sounding hostile anyway. My mom came to my rescue and said to them, “She’s 23, my darlings.” [...]
We got married 8 January 2011, 4 days before my 24th birthday and the wedding was amazing! I worked like crazy to ensure we got everything we had dreamed on (at a serious budget) and could not have asked for more. After a fantastic 10 days of honeymoon we packed up our car and drove 1400km from ‘home’ to a completely different country where I had no job lined up and knew only my husband , 2 [...]
There’s always a fine line between helping/supporting your single friends, and trying to ‘fix’ your single friends. Too often, what is well meant on the part of the marrieds, is sometimes interpreted as them trying to fix their single friends as if they’re broken or unfulfilled. This is not to say that single people don’t need or want any help from you, because we very much need your support. Being single does not make me [...]
We got married December 28, 2012 You may come upon a day, or days, in your marriage where you reach the end of yourself and may even dare to say aloud in an empty room: "I don't want to be married anymore." You might even say it twice so God knows to take you seriously. This might sound utterly shocking, or, utterly familiar. To the former I say, may you always get along and resolve conflicts well; please don't [...]