Two quick thoughts about whiteness that have been inspired by pieces that two amazing women [Jess and Jana] have written for my upcoming book on race. Less than ten percent of people in South Africa are white, by way of introduction and context. [1] Does living in the suburbs give you the illusion that most people in South Africa are white? In Cape Town at least, there are suburbs where this is true, and still a [...]
So i'm not drinking in 2017 [just in case the title wasn't too obvious]. i mean i'm drinking water, and coffee, and chocolate shots if i ever go back to Spice Route cos chocolate shots, Mmm... but not the alcohol. And it's not actually the biggest deal. i don't think i have a drinking problem [ah, but that's EXACTLY what people with drinking problems say]. i just was thinking about not drinking for a year [...]
Marriage can be amazing. But it is not always the easiest of things. My friend Catherine shares some of her journey with Alastair: “So how’s married life treating you?” My husband and I look at each other, shake our heads slightly and smile. It’s everybody’s favourite question but nobody wants the honest answer. We’ve stopped telling our friends the truth and started telling them what they want to hear. “Yeah, marriage is good. All good, [...]
In the build up to Christmas, some of us were getting a little tired of Christmas and Trump tags. Many of us were starting to wonder if it was possible to come up with a tag that wasn't about either. We decided to run with #ThisIsNotAChristmasOrTrumpTag which referenced both but was about anything but. [The Story So Far: Every Wednesday at 1pm South African [6am EDT] an inspired and growing number of brilliant, creative and absolutely fun people from [...]
Marriage is not always the easiest of things. i asked Dannean to share some of the struggles her and Sean encountered as they entered those waters: About Us Sean and I are in our late 30's. We have been married for 9 and a half years and been together for 12. We have three 'Magnificent Productions' in the way of two little boys (6 and 4 years old) and a gorgeous little princess (1 year [...]
Marriage is a beautiful amazing incredible thing. But it is not always as easy as it looks from the outside. The purpose of Taboo Topics on this blog is to create a place where people can share stories on topics that are rarely spoken about. Marriage being tough or requiring work or needing counselling to help you get by, is definitely one of those. The hope is that if you are someone who is married, [...]
What notion do you have of what is right and wrong? Continuing with some thoughts shared from Trevor Noah's book: Born a Crime [2] Notions of Right and Wrong This passage deals with Trevor speaking about one of the ways he used to make money growing up, which essentially was selling stolen stuff. At the time he didn't seem to think of it as stealing or illegal and this is what he writes in Chapter [...]
i won't lie. i'm not the biggest fan of bachelor parties. The idea of dressing a good friend up and then making them feel like a tit is beyond me. Hey friend, you are about to have one of the most important celebrations of your life and start a whole new way of living as a married man with the woman you have chosen to be with... let's celebrate that by embarrassing you, making you [...]
Yesterday i shared a bit of a book review of Trevor Noah's new book, 'Born a Crime'. i would like to share a few of the excerpts from that book [which i recommend you get hold of] which jumped out at me: [1] Sometimes you have to start with a fish This one goes completely against my way of thinking, but made a lot of sense and so caused me to pause and rethink this [...]
Shalom means completeness, wholeness, health, peace, welfare, safety soundness, tranquility, prosperity, perfectness, fullness, rest, harmony, the absence of agitation or discord. Shalom comes from the root verb shalom meaning to be complete, perfect and full. [Strong's Concordance] i was thinking about this on our recent camping trip in the Cederberg. How is it that everyone is peaceful and loving and kind on Christmas Day... and then again on New Year's Eve? And then they're not...? [...]
