/Tag: parents

Spank you very much: Hitting your kids and stuff

Is it okay for us to hit our kids? Is the question a lot of parents are asking, especially in light of the new change to the law in South Africa. i was going to do next week's Facebook Live video on it, but the conversations were happening thick and fast and so i decided to actually do one today, which is worth watching and reading the accompanying comments to. Teacher Tom has some helpful [...]

Community Parenting: Advice from Parents to other Parents

Last week i invited a number of people who love children and know a decent amount them [despite not being parents themselves] to share some thoughts/advice/suggestions and encouragement to parents of young children. You can catch both parts of that over here. A number of parentals wrote some thoughts on the "I'm going to ask you for thoughts" post and so i grabbed those. You don't have to agree with all of them but just [...]

By |2016-08-03T08:51:32+00:00Aug 3rd, 2016|family, inspire-ations, thorts of other people|0 Comments

Community Parenting: Advice from those who don’t have children. [Intro]

Do i as a person without children have anything of worth to offer as advice to those who do? This blog post or mini series comes out of an article i wrote for 1Africa this morning, titled, 'Other People's Children: An offer of help' with the bottom line being that i do believe we might have something to offer. Which led to me posting this as my status on Facebook: For ANYONE WHO DOESN'T HAVE ANY CHILDREN, [...]


When switching from my old website to my new one, not everything made the jump and so i am creating this as a base page to stick helpful links about Relationships in various shapes and forms. i have had some incredible people write some super helpful posts on topics ranging from Singleness to Dating to Engagement to Marriage to being Parents of young children when it's not particularly easy and more. Hopefully soon i will [...]

By |2016-05-27T16:00:16+00:00May 27th, 2016|relationships|0 Comments

Taboo Topic: Tantrums – Meet Belinda Mountain

This is a post that Belinda Mountain has generously allowed me to use. Make sure you click through to her blog 'Making Mountains' (out of molehills) which i link to at the end of this piece: Lessons in Humility We’re back. And I wish I could say that I’m super relaxed from a lovely lazy holiday but actually my nerves are shot, my back muscles are all tensed up and my parenting chi is completely [...]

Taboo Topic: Tantrums [Intro]

i don't have children, but i have lived among them. i can imagine that one of the scariest things for a parent [after safety/health issues] must be that moment when your young child throws themselves on the floor in the middle of the local supermarket [did i mention it's end of the month busy packed shopping day?] and starts to scream and froth at the mouth. i don't know that all children have tantrums, but [...]

hey, i just met you, and this is crazy, but could you please-look, after your baby…

my wife and i love children! other peoples! we love the bit where we get to give them back afterwards. and then return to our childrenless lair. [okay, it's not quite a lair, more an intentional community house in the inner city area of kensington, philadelphia... but still, no children living with us in the house at this particular point in time] so kind of like a choose-your-own-[children]-adventure of sorts - we get to decide [...]

Taboo Topics: Adoption [Intro]

this series of blog posts has been on my heart and mind for well over a year and i am excited to finally be at the point of getting started on it. there are a number of incredibly important, life-transforming, heart-breaking life events that happen to huge numbers of people that no-one, or very few people, ever seem to talk publically about – and so for the most part there are hundreds or thousands of [...]

Taboo Topics: Losing a baby – meet Grant and Mauri

Itʼs July, Mauri phones to tell me the news, weʼre pregnant again. Whoohoo! We had been trying and Mauri had had a dream in which a date for a birth of a baby was given. So the news was, well, wow perhaps God had spoken to us about the actual birthday! We did a calculation and due date was in the ʻdate proximityʼ. Sure it was very early days, but God had spoken hadnʼt he, [...]

Prayer-liners [iii]

some more quotes from ‘Prayer: Does it make any difference?’ by Philip Yancey, which i am really enjoying at the moment: 'In Jesus' day tax collectors, prostitutes and unclean persons reached out their hands to receive God's grace while religious professionals closed theirs into tight fists. In receiving a free gift, having open hands is the only requirement.' [pg. 23] 'Most parents feel a pang when the child outgrows dependence, even while knowing the growth [...]