I have often said that ‘Being Married to the Right Person’ is one of the best things in the World’ and I hold by that. Not the easiest though. Or the most comfortable necessarily. A large percentage of the people I know who have gotten married typically go through some kind of marriage counselling or preparation before the wedding day happens. Dealing with conflict and putting a budget together and decision-making and things like that. [...]
We met Bek Curtis last week and she has kindly agreed to let me post her follow-up to the post she shared with us on her struggles with and victory over Pornography. So here is a repost of her unplanned part II, titled 'The 'How' of Freedom': I find myself writing once again on the topic of pornography, and once again writing with reluctance, fueled this time by different motivators. I had a few people [...]
We met Bek Curtis last week and she has kindly agreed to let me post her follow-up to the post she shared with us on her struggles with and victory over Pornography. So here is a repost of her unplanned part II, titled 'The 'How' of Freedom': I find myself writing once again on the topic of pornography, and once again writing with reluctance, fueled this time by different motivators. I had a few people [...]
For this final part of my series on lies I believed about sex I want to talk about the false expectation many people are given that because sex is intended for marriage, as soon as you get married you will be able to fully express yourself sexually without experiencing guilt or shame. Of the four things I touched on in my Relevant article, this was the one people seemed to resonate with the most. Many [...]
Perhaps the most often-encountered lie I heard about sex from youth pastors, conference speakers, inspirational books, and the impassioned speeches of parents was the idea that if you wait until you are married to have sex, God will reward you with mind-blowing sex and a magical wedding night. For those of you who don’t believe there are individuals, churches, and organizations who teach this, here are some ACTUAL QUOTES on the subject: “For you, the [...]
The first myth I pointed out in my Relevant article was this idea that “Any and all physical contact is a like a gateway drug to sex.” Growing up, I frequently heard metaphors like, “Don’t start the engine if you aren’t ready to drive the car” used to warn teenagers that any physical contact (including holding hands and kissing) was a slippery slope straight into the jaws of fornication. Let me be clear. There is some [...]
So i now have a few great things written about this topic and was struggling to find the best place to put them so i thought i would create this space over here: Let's Talk about Sex - my friend Lily Dunn exposes '4 Lies the Church Taught her about Sex' Sex Before Marriage - one of those topics that keeps coming up that there are a variety of opinions on - with input from [...]
“I’ve heard people say that growing up as an evangelical Christian meant they never talked about sex. That wasn’t my experience. I grew up in the thick of evangelical purity culture and we talked about sex A LOT. We just spent all of that time talking about how and why NOT to have it. As someone who followed all of the rules and waited until I was married to have sex, I was assured that [...]
aka Jamie the very worst missionary's position on sex [part I] My youngest son is about to turn 13, so for the next 9 months, until my oldest turns 20 (holy ape balls!), I will be Mom to three teenage boys. That means our dinner table feels like a locker room... if locker rooms were full of nerds. The conversation tumbles easily from Xbox to music to girls to MineCraft to push ups to girls to [...]
I remember the first article I was invited to write for Truth magazine back in the day had the title, "How far is too far?" so I wrote, "Belgium. Belgium is too far!" and then proceeded to write the rest of my article [for some reason, they let me stay.] And the main point of the article was that if we are asking 'How far is too far?' then we are already in trouble because [...]