relationships : Brett Fish

on why rape [and violence to women in general] HAS to be taken seriously, part 3: conversation with Claudine

[this is where this series started if you are needing to catchup to part i] so part two of this focus on rape/violence towards women related to this interaction i had with a certain hashtag on the Twitter: 'it revolved around the hash tag #SafetyTipsForLadies which someone that i followed tweeted and so i went to the link and read a bunch of them and was horrified by the way they seemed to be dealing [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-28T10:41:00+02:00March 28th, 2013|challenging thorts, change the world, relationships, thorts of other people|0 Comments

One way to love your spouse better – Brett Fish [Love them in the best way they receive it]

one story tbV [the beautiful Val] enjoys telling is how after a month of us dating she had a bedside drawer full of chocolate... why is this significant? well, i spent a lot of time giving tbV chocolate as a way of showing i loved her, but she is not a big fan of chocolate, preferring sour sweets instead and so basically i invested a month or so in making Val's housemate very happy. i [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-17T10:26:00+02:00March 17th, 2013|activities, challenging thorts, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, the beautiful Val (tbV)|0 Comments

One way to love your spouse better – Sheralyn Cloete [Assume, but well]

my friend Sheralyn has a very different [and absolutely amazing!] take on one way to love your spouse better - she has been married to Sam for four years now and they have a little boy called Malakai: as·sume [uh-soom] verb (used with object) 1. to take for granted or without proof: to assume that everyone wants peace. Synonyms: suppose, presuppose; postulate, posit. 2. to take upon oneself; undertake: to assume an obligation. Making your marriage work has a lot to do with how you think about your marriage and your spouse. So one way I know I can love my [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-09T01:53:40+02:00March 9th, 2013|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people|0 Comments

One way to love your spouse better – Robert Martin [Sacrificing Self]

Robert is a friend that tbV and i met once in Americaland at a protest of sorts and have since become strong online friends and co-appreciators of Pearls Before Swine and other shared forms of humour as well as sharing in a hunger for following Jesus - he has been married to Heather for close to 18 years and while this is more of a story than a 'one thing to learn' piece, there is [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-08T01:42:14+02:00March 8th, 2013|God stuff, inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people|0 Comments

One way to love your spouse better – Brett Fish: be on the same continent

Note, this is remarkably different from "be incontinent" so try not to get confused. [in fact to be honest one of the definitions listed was "Not restrained; uncontrolled" and i am going to be speaking to exactly the opposite of that...] At the point of writing this, my wife aka the beautiful Val, is currently in Americaland while i am still in South Africa [that is about to change in 5 days time though, can't [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-07T05:26:27+02:00March 7th, 2013|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, the beautiful Val (tbV)|0 Comments

One way to love your spouse better – Richard Erasmus [listening better]

my friend, Rich Erasmus, has been married for seventeen years to his lovely wife Cindy, and has some nuggets of wisdom to share with us in the area of one way you can love your spouse better: 'I would say one of the most important ways that I have “learned to love my wife better”, is through a technique I was introduced to during an “Imago” course. Bottom line … I learned to listen to [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-03T15:24:31+02:00March 3rd, 2013|change the world, God stuff, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people|3 Comments

Taboo Topics: Singleness – meet Kate Hurley [aka The Sexy Celibate]

My friend Jess is a beautiful, single blonde girl who has been a missionary in Italy for 10 years and is the same age as me. One day, an Italian woman, let’s call her Mamma Carmen, came up to her with a little charm necklace that had a picture of a saint on it.“What’s this?” asked Jess. (Cue in accent of Italian mama who doesn’t speak much English) “A necklace for you. A picture of [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-02T18:27:04+02:00March 2nd, 2013|challenging thorts, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, shtupidt people, thorts of other people|6 Comments

One way to love your spouse better – Dalene Reyburn [the next right thing]

my friend Dalene, who is an incredible bloggist, has been married for 8 and a half years and this is a pearl of wisdom she has to share with us in terms of one way to love your marriage partner better: 'My husband stares into other women’s eyes all day. It’s his job. But when he’s done with corneas and optic nerves he comes home and tells me sweet somethings and whispers wonder and holds [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-01T02:45:34+02:00March 1st, 2013|change the world, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people|11 Comments

One way[s] to Love your husband/wife better…

when you're dating someone, you only see them at specific times and so generally you are able to always look good for them, for the most part you will be putting in extra effort and they will more than often see you at your best. it is also generally a time where you are often carried along by the emotion and the 'feelings' and the fresh raw excitement of the idea that this person of [...]

By brettfish|2013-02-28T02:38:29+02:00February 28th, 2013|change the world, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|6 Comments

a response to a nonny miss? part i: the good

'test them all; hold on to what is good, reject every kind of evil.' [1 Thessalonians 5.21-22] this is one of my favourite verses in the Bible - to be faithful to it, the verse is speaking specifically of prophecies, but i have found that it is a generally great life principle to extend to all things - hold on to the good, let go of the evil/hurtful/untrue. so when it comes to giving a [...]

By brettfish|2013-01-28T02:30:51+02:00January 28th, 2013|challenging thorts, God stuff, relationships, thorts of other people|4 Comments