We got married on 5 February 2011 – and have just celebrated our third anniversary – we made it!! Year three was hands down the hardest for us so far, & we have had to learn how to be a team in really difficult circumstances. Practically life was challenging on pretty much all fronts, and our marriage took a lot of strain. From the beginning of our relationship ‘love as a choice’ has been a [...]
this is something i've been contemplating for a while and i'd love to hear your thoughts on it. as i've been collecting stories for the two popular series i am running on my blog at the moment, namely, 'Marriage through the Years' [stories, struggles and advice from a variety of people who have been married for a differing number of years] and 'What my Single Friends would like their Married Friends to know', one thing keeps [...]
Busisiwe Ledibane, 22 The other day I went to my little cousin’s school and came across two little girls on the way to the bathroom. As I entered the staff toilets, they approached the door and one said, “You’re not allowed in there.” “I’m not a child,” I responded, trying not to sound hostile, although I ended up sounding hostile anyway. My mom came to my rescue and said to them, “She’s 23, my darlings.” [...]
We got married 8 January 2011, 4 days before my 24th birthday and the wedding was amazing! I worked like crazy to ensure we got everything we had dreamed on (at a serious budget) and could not have asked for more. After a fantastic 10 days of honeymoon we packed up our car and drove 1400km from ‘home’ to a completely different country where I had no job lined up and knew only my husband , 2 [...]
There’s always a fine line between helping/supporting your single friends, and trying to ‘fix’ your single friends. Too often, what is well meant on the part of the marrieds, is sometimes interpreted as them trying to fix their single friends as if they’re broken or unfulfilled. This is not to say that single people don’t need or want any help from you, because we very much need your support. Being single does not make me [...]
We got married December 28, 2012 You may come upon a day, or days, in your marriage where you reach the end of yourself and may even dare to say aloud in an empty room: "I don't want to be married anymore." You might even say it twice so God knows to take you seriously. This might sound utterly shocking, or, utterly familiar. To the former I say, may you always get along and resolve conflicts well; please don't [...]
In honour of legendary South African comedienne and fellow improviser, Anne speak-like-Seuss Hirsch, another great Pearls before Swine strip: [For a Pearls Before Swine cartoon about dating fish, click here] [For some of my favourite Pearls before Swine strips, click here]
Hey there, I’m Emma. Married to the very handsome Gordon for a year and a month. There are a million things I could write about being married but I thought I would focus on one thing we try and do every week that we find super-duper helpful. First though, who are ‘we’ you ask? The husband half of this team is Gordon, auditor-extraordinaire, dish-washing king, lover of all things cricket and Iron Man and devotee [...]
This is Craig's adaptation of someone else's comments: Ten Things Your Single Friends (like me) Are Tired Of Hearing 1) “You’ll find it when you aren’t looking!” This is typically where your advice starts. ”It’ll come along when you least expect it,” is also “You’ll find it when you aren’t looking“ This is a ridiculous and retarded statement. We’re programmed to look for it. It’s in our genetic make-up, God make us this way. That’s [...]
i was 35 when i got married and so i still feel like i have some kind of grasp and authority when it comes to speaking for/with the single community and definitely have a huge heart for them, especially those who are a little older and wanting to be married [as not all of them are - marriage is definitely not the end point finishing line of you-have-made-it'ness although it has too often been presented [...]