Hollywood (and the greater media) pretty much says (intimates) that love is a feeling and that the expression of that feeling is sex, and also pretty much once the feeling goes love has gone and you should walk away (and get a divorce). Which is why we have such a huge divorce rate where one out of three (or is it two now) marriages end in divorce. But there is another, better way... A way [...]
this part added by my wife, TBV: Step away from the emotion of the moment. I really struggle to think clearly, reason well, and see things from Brett’s point of view, when I am caught up in the emotion of the immediate argument. I may be hurting, angry, frustrated, sad, feeling sorry for myself, or incredibly teary. I often cannot think straight at all and this results in me “blanking out” – literally shutting out [...]
I don’t think tbV and i are there yet, in fact i know we’re not. It’s definitely a work in progress and there is definitely progress because we are working on it. We argue a lot better (in terms of nicer, friendlier, love-lier) than we used to when we were going out, but we can do even better. But there are definitely some principles we can share from what we do take care to do. [...]
This one goes out to those of you who have girlfriends or wives (and if you’ve been paying attention and using your brains all along this series you will realise that most of what i say would fit into a ‘how to love your man better’ series or be applied to family and friends and work colleagues to differing extents so i hope no-one has been put off by the titles – i am specifically [...]
so one of my absolute highlights of the new years festival was my wife... no, but above and beyond the usual reasons for loving and liking her – two moments stand out: the first is the moment of new years when we were backstage and sitting next to slash behind a giant speaker box semi trying to avoid the whole run-around-and-hug-perfect-strangers (perfect sweaty rained upon strangers who have been partying it up since 7 hours [...]
sometimes i like to picture Jesus in a modern day setting and wonder how His life and ministry would have looked if it was 2011 when God decided to come to earth in human form to settle the original score instead of 2000ish years ago would He have watched movies or played computer games? Would He have had His own Facebook page or blog? Would Jesus own a cellphone (my thorts are He probably wouldn’t [...]
my beautiful wife val just wrote this blog and it's been stuff that is on my mind and heart a lot these last few years and she pretty much nails it: check out her blog titled "on immoral wealth"
it is fascinating to see what gets christians all passionate and excited (in a pitchfork and flaming torches mob kind of way) - i remember the whole furore around the Christmas to X-mas campaign with stickers and articles and sermons declaring 'put the Christ back into X-mas' [it is only mildly funny that those people would campaign so strongly about that and yet for the most part be completely sucked into the capitalistic greed-focus of [...]
there is a verse from revelations which has been running thru my head - it's the one where john has the vision of the messages given to the seven churches and is found in rev 3.1-3 and says, "i know your deeds; you have a reputation of being alive, but you are dead. wake up! strengthen what remains and is about to die, for i have not found your deeds complete in the sight of [...]
there is a verse from revelations which has been running thru my head - it's the one where john has the vision of the messages given to the seven churches and is found in rev 3.1-3 and says, "i know your deeds; you have a reputation of being alive, but you are dead. wake up! strengthen what remains and is about to die, for i have not found your deeds complete in the sight of [...]