We met at UCT in 1975, followers of Christ and both students. Already - two keys to a long-lasting relationship - our Christian faith has held us in good times and difficulties; our keenness to learn and be curious about life, has kept our relationship interesting. After completing our degrees in Education and Librarianship , we decided to work for a year before making a firm choice to get married. So we had actually been [...]
We read the story of Jade and Sean as part of the Marriage Year 4 posts and Jade was so inspired by taking time to reflect on her marriage that she invited her folks to do the same and so we have this stunning post by her mom, Shelley. Deon and I were married on August 30 1986, which means we have been married for 28 years this year. I would love to say it [...]
We have definitely gotten through some challenges in nearly 18 years of marriage. The challenges that seemed to be a big deal once, I actually look back and laugh about now. At the time, the toilet seat being left up or the tooth paste cap off was no laughing matter. Now, there are bigger challenges of forgiving each other for things that seem unforgivable; learning to communicate about our differences of parenting styles rather than [...]
Married 15 years this year... "It's important to remember that there is a difference between being an awesome team and an awesome couple. Teams can work well even if the teammates don't connect on a deeper level." As time goes on, the roles and job descriptions for everyone in your family unit sets in. Who sorts out the kids lunch, who buys the milk, who pays what bills, who handles the social calendar…after a while it [...]
I recently went back and looked over our photo books, images from our first date back in 1999 through marriage and the births of our two lovely children and couldn't help but smile at all those memories. Kathy and I met at a Scripture Union holiday club in 1997, we were both in Matric, there was an infatuation, but neither of us pursued it as Kathy went off on foreign exchange for a year and [...]
We got married on 9th August 2000. A good date for two reasons… very easy to calculate how many years we’ve been married… and a South African public holiday so we always get a day off to celebrate! From the off – marriage has been amazing. For us there was little adjustment… we kind of flowed into being married and we are ver y marriage-positive. One thing we hate is when people make negative comments to [...]
People like to say that my wife and I look young, but you should have seen us when we got married on April 20, 2001. There is a picture from our wedding day on our dining room wall, and it serves to bring joy and laughter to many visitors. We were young, fresh out of college and ready to begin our adult life together. We have changed and evolved over the past twelve years. I’d [...]
When my friend Deborah's post on 'What my Single Friends would like their Married Friends to know' hit 1000 views, i figured that people were interested in what she had to say and so it would be worth seeing if she was up to writing a piece for the Taboo Topic on Singleness and turns out, she was... Stages of Singleness When I was 18 years old, I attended my very first Singles Camp. Contrary [...]
On the 9th of May Brenton and I will celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary, although we mark being together for 11 years more strongly. Our relationship still continues to grow, evolve, settle, change, as we ourselves do. Here is one thing I think we got right. Very soon in our relationship we had a big bump. Something came up that neither of us knew how to deal with and we had a silent, sleepless and [...]
Wendy and I have been married since December 2004 but in some ways it seems so much longer because we have done so much since then, including immigrating (twice) and starting a business. And let me tell you, those are both very stressful, and stress is not good for a marriage. I think that what I have realised about marriage is that it is not always a feeling but a choice. You choose to be [...]