Every year i try to focus in on a Word for the Year and 2024 is no different. Although, i guess you could say it is a little different, as i normally use words that exist. But while i was leaning in and listening and trying to get a sense of what my word for this year would be i came up with a made-up word that i thought would be perfect. And then [...]
Yesterday i found myself facing Blogger’s Block. i mean is that even a thing? i know ‘Writer’s Block’ is a thing and so surely it must be. Anyways, i decided to turn to the Twitterer and share my dilemma and ask for topics to write on and a few really good ones came in. So i thought i would dedicate this week’s bloggering to picking topics that others have chosen for me and writing on them [...]
Having finished taking a look at 40 Tips to help people look at their marriages and perhaps do them better, i asked some of my friends who have children if any of them had any tips for how to do marriage better when you have children... so here we have some thoughts on Marriage with Kids BONUS Marriage [with children] Tip #1: Rich Erasmus My “one tip” overlaps with the parenting vibe and sex … [...]
For the last 40ish days i have been dropping one tip to help you 'I do' better and so now we have a collection of 40 Tips to help married people improve their marriage. For the journey through a more in-depth look at each tip, you can start over here... But for those of you who have journeyed with me, i thought it might be helpful to have all 40 tips summarised into a line [...]
We head into the last 5 tips of this marriage series. If this has been helpful in any way please SHARE it on your social media and tag your friends so they can benefit as well. Would love to hear some summary thoughts you might have in the comments... Marriage Tip #36 Fight well. i do think because of the nature of marriage being between two people that each one looks quite significantly different from [...]
The next five married tips to help you think about and act on how to do marriage well: Marriage Tip #26 Rage, Rage against the selfishness of the me. Just as online people tend towards stupid [a brettfish original], offline people tend towards selfish. In a world that has at times whispered but more often shouted 'THIS IS ALL ABOUT YOU!' into your ear as it has watched you grow up, this should not be [...]
Marriage Tip #21 Tend towards the cleaner one. Now this is not to much specifically a marriage tip as it is a people-who-live-in-the-same-space tip and i probably observed this more living in community with tbV and others in Philly than with just me and Val. But it can be huge. The person who hates breadcrumbs on the counter is MUCH MORE emotionally invested than the person who doesn't care [or notice] breadcrumbs on the counter. [...]
Marriage Tip #11 My friend Robert Martin, who recently lost his wife, asked if he could share a tip and having gone through this with a best friend before i can echo so much of this: Treasure EVERY moment... I, unfortunately, sit in a place where my other half is no longer around to exercise tips 1-10. And there is much regret that I'm wrestling with. Time that we BOTH wasted in our lives together [...]
Is it okay for us to hit our kids? Is the question a lot of parents are asking, especially in light of the new change to the law in South Africa. i was going to do next week's Facebook Live video on it, but the conversations were happening thick and fast and so i decided to actually do one today, which is worth watching and reading the accompanying comments to. Teacher Tom has some helpful [...]
Marriage can be amazing. But it is not always the easiest of things. My friend Catherine shares some of her journey with Alastair: “So how’s married life treating you?” My husband and I look at each other, shake our heads slightly and smile. It’s everybody’s favourite question but nobody wants the honest answer. We’ve stopped telling our friends the truth and started telling them what they want to hear. “Yeah, marriage is good. All good, [...]
