Why do we need 40 Tips for Men? And why am i the one dishing them out? Well, if you want to see my motivation for 40 Tips for Men, which started directly after the death of Uyinene Mrwetyana and the countrywide gatherings against Gender-Based Violence that followed, you can read about it over here. But if you're asking am i the self-proclaimed perfect man who has arrived and is now freely dispensing divine [...]
Moving on to the last 5 tips of our #40TipsForMen series: 40 Tips for Men: Tip #36 Recognise, Acknowledge and Leverage your privilege. Now these will have largely been covered in other tips, but i think this little three prong process can be a harder one. And imagine men might be a little less defensive about getting this one that white people, perhaps because it is spoken about a lot less. The idea of [...]
Here we go with the next five tips in our #40TipsForMen series in which we look at some really important things: 40 Tips for Men: Tip #31 Stop mansplaining. For those of you who don't know what that means one definition is: to explain something to a woman in a condescending or patronising way that assumes she has no knowledge about the topic. But it can also occur when a woman has said something [...]
The next five tips in our #40TipsForMen seeking to be better men are here for you: 40 Tips for Men: Tip #26 Don't rush to respond with #NotAllMen! i shared the tip series on the Twitterer and had this response: I would appreciate the men in my life to stop saying #notallmen . It takes away from the very serious conversations we need to be having. I feel anything but safe when I hear [...]
The man tips continue as we work our way slowly towards having a tool belt of resources to help us to become better men: 40 Tips for Men: Tip #21 Include yourself in the wide set that is toxic masculinity. This one links very closely to a similar one when it comes to race so let me use that as an example. It can be very easy for a white person to look at [...]
What does it mean to be real men? We are continuing on with our journey towards 40 Tips for Men... 40 Tips for Men: Tip #16 Be slow to the mic. Picture this: There is a conference or book launch or some form of meeting happening in South Africa. Afterwards, there is a time of Q & A. Without knowing anything about the meeting, describe as best you can, the first five people who [...]
Continuing with the next 5 in our series of #40TipsForMen: 40 Tips for Men: Tip #11 Be aware of a potential need to step towards. My friend Janet really caught my attention this past week when she used the word 'hyper-vigilant' when she described how women in South Africa always need to be on the alert. One of the ways we men can help make the world a safer place is by increasing our [...]
Jess Hill's Mission to understand Abusive Men What's Rape Anxiety? This woman explained it to her favourite men and they were shocked. Relax Ladies. Don't be so Uptight. You know you want it. How to be a Woman in the 21st Century Twitter trending Hashtag 'Men are Trash' proof that men centre themselves on feminist issues. Eusebius McKaiser wrote a piece titled 'The Chain between Words and Violence' 'Why we're not working today' by [...]
40 Tips for Men: Tip #6 Hold your voice. This is connected to Tip 3 which involved listening but is bigger than that as well. We live in a world that for the most part has been dominated by the voices and actions of men [see history!] We need to be doing what we can to help redress that, keeping in mind the saying that, 'When privilege is all you've known then equality may [...]
