Blog : Brett Fish

One way to love your spouse better – Sheralyn Cloete [Assume, but well]

my friend Sheralyn has a very different [and absolutely amazing!] take on one way to love your spouse better - she has been married to Sam for four years now and they have a little boy called Malakai: as·sume [uh-soom] verb (used with object) 1. to take for granted or without proof: to assume that everyone wants peace. Synonyms: suppose, presuppose; postulate, posit. 2. to take upon oneself; undertake: to assume an obligation. Making your marriage work has a lot to do with how you think about your marriage and your spouse. So one way I know I can love my [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-09T01:53:40+02:00March 9th, 2013|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people|0 Comments

One way to love your spouse better – Robert Martin [Sacrificing Self]

Robert is a friend that tbV and i met once in Americaland at a protest of sorts and have since become strong online friends and co-appreciators of Pearls Before Swine and other shared forms of humour as well as sharing in a hunger for following Jesus - he has been married to Heather for close to 18 years and while this is more of a story than a 'one thing to learn' piece, there is [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-08T01:42:14+02:00March 8th, 2013|God stuff, inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people|0 Comments

One way to love your spouse better – Brett Fish: be on the same continent

Note, this is remarkably different from "be incontinent" so try not to get confused. [in fact to be honest one of the definitions listed was "Not restrained; uncontrolled" and i am going to be speaking to exactly the opposite of that...] At the point of writing this, my wife aka the beautiful Val, is currently in Americaland while i am still in South Africa [that is about to change in 5 days time though, can't [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-07T05:26:27+02:00March 7th, 2013|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, the beautiful Val (tbV)|0 Comments

Manchester United beat Poverty by three goals to hunger.

So last night there was a game of football/soccer between Manchester United [soccer is one of my least supported sports but if i have ever supported a team it has been Manchester United... and then locally Kaizer Chiefs back in the day when Dr Khumalo played and i always back Bafana!] and Real Madrid in the Champion's League. Real Madrid won 2-1 but of course there was "that red card incident" with Nani getting sent [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-06T03:51:52+02:00March 6th, 2013|and other animals., bible things, change the world, shtupidt people, sport and games, world news|0 Comments

One way to love your spouse better – Richard Erasmus [listening better]

my friend, Rich Erasmus, has been married for seventeen years to his lovely wife Cindy, and has some nuggets of wisdom to share with us in the area of one way you can love your spouse better: 'I would say one of the most important ways that I have “learned to love my wife better”, is through a technique I was introduced to during an “Imago” course. Bottom line … I learned to listen to [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-03T15:24:31+02:00March 3rd, 2013|change the world, God stuff, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people|3 Comments

Weekly Photo Challenge: (Lost in the Details)

i attended a formula 1 grand prix last year in Austen, Texas, which was basically a dream-i-never-would-have-realistically-had come true as i had been watching the sport since i was in primary school... and in the midst of this international event, sitting flanked by people of all nationalities from all around the world, i had the joy of seeing this South African flag draped casually over someone's chair near me... great reminder of home in the [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-02T19:49:58+02:00March 2nd, 2013|activities, challenges, the beautiful Val (tbV)|1 Comment

Taboo Topics: Singleness – meet Kate Hurley [aka The Sexy Celibate]

My friend Jess is a beautiful, single blonde girl who has been a missionary in Italy for 10 years and is the same age as me. One day, an Italian woman, let’s call her Mamma Carmen, came up to her with a little charm necklace that had a picture of a saint on it.“What’s this?” asked Jess. (Cue in accent of Italian mama who doesn’t speak much English) “A necklace for you. A picture of [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-02T18:27:04+02:00March 2nd, 2013|challenging thorts, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, shtupidt people, thorts of other people|6 Comments

One way to love your spouse better – Dalene Reyburn [the next right thing]

my friend Dalene, who is an incredible bloggist, has been married for 8 and a half years and this is a pearl of wisdom she has to share with us in terms of one way to love your marriage partner better: 'My husband stares into other women’s eyes all day. It’s his job. But when he’s done with corneas and optic nerves he comes home and tells me sweet somethings and whispers wonder and holds [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-01T02:45:34+02:00March 1st, 2013|change the world, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people|11 Comments

One way[s] to Love your husband/wife better…

when you're dating someone, you only see them at specific times and so generally you are able to always look good for them, for the most part you will be putting in extra effort and they will more than often see you at your best. it is also generally a time where you are often carried along by the emotion and the 'feelings' and the fresh raw excitement of the idea that this person of [...]

By brettfish|2013-02-28T02:38:29+02:00February 28th, 2013|change the world, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|6 Comments

Part 3 of the Andersons next journey – the excitement of support

this is also my 800th blog post altho that is completely irrelevant but a nice round number nonetheless... so if you are reading this, then by now you know that myself and tbV are heading to Oakland, California to work with Common Change, and you also probably have some idea of what our specific roles with CC look like, and so the last thing i want to comment on is the support aspect. Val and [...]