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40 Tips for Men: Tips #31-35

Here we go with the next five tips in our #40TipsForMen series in which we look at some really important things: 40 Tips for Men: Tip #31 Stop mansplaining. For those of you who don't know what that means one definition is: to explain something to a woman in a condescending or patronising way that assumes she has no knowledge about the topic. But it can also occur when a woman has said something [...]

By |2019-10-30T14:06:59+02:00Oct 9th, 2019|40 Tips, real men|4 Comments

40 Tips for Parents: Parts 26-30

Here we go with 5 more tips for parents in this #40TipsForParents series: 40 Tips for Parents: Tip #26 + Tip #27 Make time to eat together as a family. Use creative questions to go deeper with your family. Two tips in one here. So thought it worth sharing them together. You may not be able to eat all your meals with your family, but i would highly encourage you to make as much [...]

By |2019-10-07T17:10:33+02:00Oct 6th, 2019|40 Tips, family, Food and foodlike things|3 Comments

40 Tips for Men: Tip 26-30

The next five tips in our #40TipsForMen seeking to be better men are here for you: 40 Tips for Men: Tip #26 Don't rush to respond with #NotAllMen! i shared the tip series on the Twitterer and had this response: I would appreciate the men in my life to stop saying #notallmen . It takes away from the very serious conversations we need to be having. I feel anything but safe when I hear [...]

By |2019-10-30T13:11:22+02:00Sep 29th, 2019|40 Tips, real men|0 Comments

40 Tips for Parents: Parts 21-25

Continuing the journey of #40TipsForParents with another five you might find helpful: 40 Tips for Parents: Tip #21 Give them Justice/Compassion/Generosity-flavoured experiences. We have spoken about being honest and dealing with difficult topics when it comes to things happening in the country or tricky questions they may be asking [Tips 4 and 14]. But i want to encourage you to do things with them that teach them about Justice and bridge-building and compassion and [...]

40 Tips for Men: Man Tips 21-25

The man tips continue as we work our way slowly towards having a tool belt of resources to help us to become better men: 40 Tips for Men: Tip #21 Include yourself in the wide set that is toxic masculinity. This one links very closely to a similar one when it comes to race so let me use that as an example. It can be very easy for a white person to look at [...]

By |2019-10-30T13:09:26+02:00Sep 24th, 2019|40 Tips, real men|0 Comments

40 Tips for Parents: Parts 16-20

Rolling on with our #40TipsForParents as we head into the second half: 40 Tips for Parents: Tip #16 Be mindful about the pictures you show of your children. There are many levels to this one, but the most real and scary relates to predators and the sickness of the world we live in. It may be completely innocent for you to show a picture of your naked three year old running around the garden, [...]

By |2019-09-26T10:30:55+02:00Sep 20th, 2019|40 Tips, family, positive ideas for change|0 Comments

40 Tips for Men: Part 16-20

What does it mean to be real men? We are continuing on with our journey towards 40 Tips for Men... 40 Tips for Men: Tip #16 Be slow to the mic. Picture this: There is a conference or book launch or some form of meeting happening in South Africa. Afterwards, there is a time of Q & A. Without knowing anything about the meeting, describe as best you can, the first five people who [...]

By |2019-10-30T12:37:03+02:00Sep 18th, 2019|#NotOnOurWatch, 40 Tips, real men, South Africa|3 Comments

40 Tips for Parents: Parts 11-15

We are continuing on with our series aimed at sharing ideas with parents who are looking for some creative ways to parent better. #40TipsForParents 40 Tips for Parents: Tip #11 Talk to your children about important things first. This links to explaining things and raising the bar [tips 4 & 5] but is a little more specific. Some people are really great and feel at ease when talking about topics like sex, periods, racism, [...]

By |2019-09-26T15:09:49+02:00Sep 14th, 2019|40 Tips, family|0 Comments

40 Tips for Men: Part 11-15

Continuing with the next 5 in our series of #40TipsForMen: 40 Tips for Men: Tip #11 Be aware of a potential need to step towards. My friend Janet really caught my attention this past week when she used the word 'hyper-vigilant' when she described how women in South Africa always need to be on the alert. One of the ways we men can help make the world a safer place is by increasing our [...]

By |2019-09-18T11:51:33+02:00Sep 11th, 2019|#NotOnOurWatch, 40 Tips, real men, South Africa|0 Comments

Some reading for men who are looking to up their game

Jess Hill's Mission to understand Abusive Men What's Rape Anxiety? This woman explained it to her favourite men and they were shocked. Relax Ladies. Don't be so Uptight. You know you want it. How to be a Woman in the 21st Century Twitter trending Hashtag 'Men are Trash' proof that men centre themselves on feminist issues. Eusebius McKaiser wrote a piece titled 'The Chain between Words and Violence' 'Why we're not working today' by [...]

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