i am convinced that relationships are the key to South Africa's transformation. We can read and learn and unlearn and try to understand and engage and educate ourselves - which are all helpful and important things to do - but unless we are building real, authentic, two-way friendship with people we are not going to be moving forwards. Sometimes the reading, learning, unlearning, understanding, engaging and educating are vital for us so that we won't [...]
As the army was deployed into certain areas of the Cape Flats and beyond many of us watched with dismay... This is the narrative the rest of the country is given of an area facing tremendous odds. Communities still trying to crawl themselves out of the mess that apartheid and forced removals and lack of local government focus left them in. What good ever comes out of the Cape Flats? is a question that [...]
i am busy reading a book called 'The Man who Founded the ANC' by Bongani Ngqulunga. It is the biography of a man called Pixley ka Isaka Seme [Pixley, son of Isaka Seme] who i never knew before last week. i had also never heard of Bongani Ngqulunga, although apparently he currently serves as the chief of staff and spokesperson of the President of the Republic of South Africa. And when i thought of [...]
We need more Diversity! If you are a white person living in the Western Cape then it can become fairly easy to believe that white people make up the majority of people in the province and be extension, the country. The reality, though, is that we make up closer to 16% of the province and less then 8% of the country. So there has to be a certain degree of intentionality [or maybe lack [...]
A lot of great ideas in the world are simply never thought of, until they are. We are part of some groups and some practices which feel quite positive and so i thought it would be fun to share some of them in the hopes that you might discover a new thing or two and have your lives transformed as much as ours have been... feel free to let some of our ideas spark [...]
i see you looking down your nose at the styles that comfort me and the beats that hold me close all the while wondering, but do you see ME? i watch your grip tighten painted manicured nails digging desperately into the folded fabric of your bag as you quickly cross over to the other side of the mall and wonder if you care that I went to bed hungry again last night my tattoos, [...]
P roteas run out on to the field for another lap of dejavu R un-out? Another one adding insult to, well, injury O f course we won the toss and chose the unpopular decision T hat seems to be the order of the day, of the decay E xpectations and disappointments will be kept to a minimum this time A s it looks like we were too busy [...]
On the evening of the election, tbV [the beautiful Val] and i hosted our own party. #ISeeWhatIDidThere We invited around ten of our friends for food and drinks and cake and conversation and just hung out - no agenda beyond celebrating friendship and being in a trusted space with people we love. And it was a diverse group of people. And it was good. Then last night we gatecrashed [kinda] another dinner with some [...]
Do you love Jesus? Are you trying to follow Him? i recently compiled a list of 40 tips on some different ways you can be a better disciple. This list is a summary of those tips with a brief explanation of each one, but if you click on each tip it will take you to longer version so you can read a little more deeply. Would love to hear which of these you found [...]
Having finished taking a look at 40 Tips to help people look at their marriages and perhaps do them better, i asked some of my friends who have children if any of them had any tips for how to do marriage better when you have children... so here we have some thoughts on Marriage with Kids BONUS Marriage [with children] Tip #1: Rich Erasmus My “one tip” overlaps with the parenting vibe and sex … [...]
