[Tuesday May 13th] I am taking a break from a Share conference I am attending as part of Common Change... I really wish I could capture the heart and essence of the opening remarks and the morning's sessions, but I imagine I will fail dismally. But I will try out something together anyway because I really believe this is something we all need to be thinking about, reading up on, talking about and getting [...]
When Brett asked for some volunteers on this topic I sprung at the chance but it has taken me a while to get some words down as I wasn’t sure what to say or what aspect to focus on or what I really wanted people to get out of this post… To be honest I am still not 100% sure but I hope either way it will challenge you to think deeply about race, relationships [...]
[Disclaimer: while in Americaland, the term "coloured" is a strongly negative term, in South Africa there is a unique group of people who have come from a heritage of different cultures but now have developed their own distinct culture. They are neither black nor white, nor are they mixed race, and they would call themselves 'coloured'.] We’re no different than any other couple. Well, we are. Roxanne is from South Africa and colo(u)red and Greg [...]
American-African meets African-American. We met at university; both of us were on student leadership for our respective halls. Sherrell’s from Durham, NC. James is from Cape Town, South Africa (Well, mostly). Naturally, there are a lot of cultural differences we’ve discovered along the way. For starters, we have different likes and dislikes, some of them diametrically opposite each other, ranging from the superficial, like our tastes in music and to how we like to [...]
Hi brett. I saw you put up a request for inter- racial relationship stories: here's a bit of mine: in 150 days i'm marrying my best friend and the love of my life. He is coloured and i'm white and we are the best for each other. When I look at him I don't see my culture or his - I see two people working out life with a different approach and mentality... this goes [...]
As we have started talking about different aspects of Race on my blog, one area that quickly came to mind was that of mixed race/culture relationships. Hard to believe that this was illegal when i was growing up. And that it was normal for it to be so. And even when it wasn't, it took a bit of a while for it to become more of a regular [less stared at] thing and so i imagine [...]
When I was young, I always dreamed of being married & having children. Today I am a proud wife & mother of 2 beautiful boys. Its is only by the grace of God that we are now able to celebrate our 10 year wedding anniversary on the 1st May 2014. As with any marriage, there are many challenges and yes most of them not easy, but even though we were caught up in our problems [...]
I started out by inviting a bunch of my Single Friends to share some thoughts they really wanted their Married Friends to hear, consider, think about and respond to and some really great posts came out of that, which you can read over here. When someone gets married, the dynamic between them and their single friends always changes, sometimes more than others. especially when it is the friendship between a guy and a girl [yes, [...]
Hello. I'm Shana, and I have a husband. He's Carl. We haven't been married very long but we are married nonetheless. I'm not really a writer, so I'm not really going to make this sound good or write particularly well, but over the past 2 and a half years of marriage I've been putting together a mental list of things I'd like my single friends to know. Here goes (all harshness unintended): 1) When your [...]
For some of you this will be a "best, most moving story I ever read, must forward to 100 friends" whereas for others, halfway through the first line will have you rolling your eyes and going, "Oh, one of those" if you are the former, enjoy the story, it's an inspiring story... if you are the latter, jump down to the bottom and see the point i am trying to make about it, it's a [...]