things to wrestle with : Brett Fish

Noel Fielding, Wes Craven and How i Became an Accidental Murderer on the Weekend

tbV and i were watching 'The Big Fat Anniversary Quiz of the Year' last night as we had some internet to use up before the end of the month [and it all got eaten by the Invisible Internet-Data-Eating Monster] when suddenly Russel Brand and Noel Fielding [in top form in terms of doing fairly little resembling traditional quiz participation] had this moment where they caught a fly, who they named Chris, and then released it. They claimed [...]

By brettfish|2015-08-31T14:09:50+02:00August 31st, 2015|challenging thorts, inspire-ations, pain and Hope, things to wrestle with, tricky things|0 Comments

10 More Things i Don’t Understand

Not too long ago i shared a list of 10 Things i struggle to get my mind around... This was quite a varied lists of topics and included such items as pineapple on pizza, litter [special mention to cigarette butts out car windows], people's confusion with regards to four way stops, recent Adam Sandler movies [bonus cameo by Will Ferrell], the 'joke' insult, make-your-best-friend-look-and-act-like-a-tit bachelor party vibes, the difference between adopted children and real children, [...]

By brettfish|2015-08-27T10:39:10+02:00August 27th, 2015|challenging thorts, fun, things to wrestle with, top 10 List|5 Comments

With Justice For All – part economic systems

i really enjoyed reading this book by John Perkins recently. Despite being about his experiences in Americaland i found that so much of it resonated with the present conversations happening in South Africa. The passage i posted on Why Do You Live Where You Live? gave much food for thought and there are some other pieces i would love to share, but as always, you will do much better if you just make some effort [...]

By brettfish|2015-08-25T09:57:46+02:00August 25th, 2015|change the world, pain and Hope, things to wrestle with, thorts of other people, what i am reading|2 Comments

Taboo Topic: Tantrums – Meet Leigh Geary

This is a piece that was shared with me by Leigh Geary but which originally was published on her blog, The Mom Diaries under the title, 'The Terrible Twos: Am I being punished for all my sins?' Lets talk about the terrible two’s shall we? Holy Moley! I think I’m about to lose my shit in a big way but lets face it that would just be teaching him that tantrums and inappropriate behavior are [...]

By brettfish|2025-05-09T16:53:18+02:00August 24th, 2015|family, inspire-ations, pain and Hope, Taboo Topics, things to wrestle with|2 Comments

Taboo Topic: Tantrums – Meet Candice D’Arcy

[Candice is one of my oldest [as in time spent together] Improv friends and now that she has moved to Australia i am realising how much i miss not having her around… but she has written an excellent post which i’m sure is going to resonate with and encourage many of you so here goes…] Because I am going through a challenging phase with my teenaged daughter and many of my friends are having babies [...]

By brettfish|2015-08-20T16:02:28+02:00August 20th, 2015|inspire-ations, pain and Hope, Taboo Topics, things to wrestle with, thorts of other people|3 Comments

10 Practical Ways to Change your Country for the better [part II]

A lot of people complain about South Africa or just feel completely overwhelmed by stories [and experiences] of crime or corruption and more. There is good reason for a lot of that, but if you aren’t planning on leaving the country, then it makes a lot more sense to be a part of the change. In Part I, we looked at five practical ways at which we can genuinely get involved in seeing change in [...]

By brettfish|2015-08-18T13:21:58+02:00August 18th, 2015|activities, challenging thorts, change the world, local news, pain and Hope, things to wrestle with|5 Comments

10 Practical Ways to Change your Country for the better [part I]

There is that old joke that goes, ‘How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.’ i know, it’s NOT funny. please stop eating elephants. But the point it makes is pretty valid. i don’t know about you but when i think about my home country of South Africa and everything that needs i change i can feel completely overwhelmed and usually simply just paralysed. What can i do to make any difference? [...]

By brettfish|2015-08-14T15:18:40+02:00August 14th, 2015|inspire-ations, local news, pain and Hope, things to wrestle with|6 Comments

The one week Meat-Free Challenge? Can you?

Can you go without meat for one week? Yesterday i posed the question on Facebook just to see what people’s response would be and it was interesting to see what people had to say [a number of people claiming they could but their spouse? No way. And one person who suggested he might be able to give up vegetables for a week]. But that’s really all this is. Check it out: […]

By brettfish|2015-08-14T10:09:58+02:00August 14th, 2015|activities, challenges, things to wrestle with|6 Comments

Why do you live where you live? How Relocation can help others towards their dreams.

i am loving this book tbV pickedup for me at The Warehouse by John Perkins. So much of it resonates with where my heart is for South Africa and, although he is using Americaland examples, so many of the truths still completely apply. WILL I HOLD THEIR DREAM The well-known Martin Luther King Jnr "I have a dream" speech was the dream of the black person in Americaland. But to be honest, it could only [...]

By brettfish|2015-08-12T14:35:38+02:00August 12th, 2015|inspire-ations, things to wrestle with, what i am reading|2 Comments

Well overdue but not too late. [Come Xhosa with me!]

One of the signs of privilege in a country is the expectation that everyone else will address you in your mother tongue. This is typically true for white english-speakers in South Africa and not even remotely for black mother tongue Xhosa speakers. i would hate to find out the statistics for white people who can't even say the basics of "Hello" "What is your name?" "My name is..." in an African language but fortunately this [...]