When switching from my old website to my new one, not everything made the jump and so i am creating this as a base page to stick helpful links about Relationships in various shapes and forms. i have had some incredible people write some super helpful posts on topics ranging from Singleness to Dating to Engagement to Marriage to being Parents of young children when it's not particularly easy and more. Hopefully soon i will [...]

By |2016-05-27T16:00:16+02:00May 27th, 2016|relationships|0 Comments

What my Single Friends would like their Married Friends to know: Meet Craig Botha

This is Craig's adaptation of someone else's comments: Ten Things Your Single Friends (like me) Are Tired Of Hearing 1) “You’ll find it when you aren’t looking!” This is typically where your advice starts. ”It’ll come along when you least expect it,” is also “You’ll find it when you aren’t looking“ This is a ridiculous and retarded statement. We’re programmed to look for it. It’s in our genetic make-up, God make us this way. That’s [...]

Taboo Topics: Singleness – meet Kate Hurley [aka The Sexy Celibate]

My friend Jess is a beautiful, single blonde girl who has been a missionary in Italy for 10 years and is the same age as me. One day, an Italian woman, let’s call her Mamma Carmen, came up to her with a little charm necklace that had a picture of a saint on it.“What’s this?” asked Jess. (Cue in accent of Italian mama who doesn’t speak much English) “A necklace for you. A picture of [...]

being aware of the deluge in your unique…

i said to my beautiful wife Valerie the other day something along the lines of 'what do people write statuses [stati?] about on Facebook if they are not entering into a relationship or having a baby? [or these days in americaland making some kind of staunchly pro this party or anti that one political statement] as it just seemed like the majority of statuses [stati?] i was reading were about one of those... two things [...]

How to Save a Marriage… before you need to. [part i]

if you are a single person, then embrace that, completely. hope to be married if that is your dream, but be absolutely content with where you are and living in it, til the opportunity arises. don't live where you're not. if you are a married person, then embrace that, completely. be content with what you have, while always striving for more. if you are not constantly working at your marriage, then you may soon discover [...]

can't i just enjoy this big thing first?

what is with people and 'the next big thing?' - you've been single forever and you finally get yourself a girlfriend and within a month or two (especially if you're older) people are like, "so, when's the big day?" you get married and within a month or two (way before the plans settle on any kind of one year wedding anniversary preparation) it's the knowing smirks and, "so, kids hey?" and so on, and those [...]

By |2011-02-12T22:00:35+02:00Feb 12th, 2011|and other animals., life|9 Comments

How to Love your Woman better part ‘Saying it’

If you are married: Tell her you love her. Tell her often. Don't ever get bored or tired or let it become a cliche (or a quiche cos that would be weird) and so mean it every time. But say the words. Don't assume she knows. Tell her again. If you are dating: Don't tell her you love her, til you really mean it. And that might mean different things to different people but love [...]

for the sake of the chores

so i have been married for about 14 months yesterday and i still completely highly recommend it if it is to the right person - it is not always easy - it is sometimes really hard - but it is incredible and the pros definitely outbeat-up-and-leave-bleeding-behind-the-shed the cons... and i love the beautiful Val - really feel privileged and lucky and amazed that i have someone like her in my life... yay. the one thing [...]

marriage to the right person – highly recommendable

so in exactly one week's time i will have been married to the beautiful Val for exactly one year - and what a year it's been! as i say often to people - 'marriage is highly recommended... to the right person!' and the 'to the right person' bit is the key - not cos i believe in any kind of God-brings-this-person-and-that-person-together necessarily or that i believe that there is only one 'the one' as opposed [...]

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