Have you heard the one about the Bishops Sex Scandal? i knew something was up when 'jokes' containing the words 'Bishops' and 'Water Polo' arrived in my hockey whatsapp group. But i had not heard of the specific incident and when Val told me the details that night i was shocked. And have just written something in my hockey whatsapp group which is likely to not go down that well, but this is a [...]
We are into the final stretch in our #40TipsForParents series as we look at the next five tips aimed at helping parents: 40 Tips for Parents: Tip #31 [i realise there are families in which this particular tip does not apply and want to take a moment to Shoutout to all the women and men who might be doing this parenting thing by themselves for whatever reason. If parenting is one of the hardest [...]
You're saying #ImStaying but you're playingIf you're not also up forwailing against the flailing arms and bodies broken words spokenlives tokenconstant pokingembers smokingam i joking?No! i don't expect you'll understandIn fact you cannot hear because your head is in the sand[But the moment that i pointed that out, Boom! i was banned!] That move was my prerogativeYou were not being positiveWe try to keep it light in hereSo don't come bring your slight in hereThe negatives just disappearAnd colourblindness [...]
If the only black and brown people you interact with in your life are those who are in positions of service to you, you have work to do. [Not to say that if you have black and brown people in leadership over you or as equals in the spaces you inhabit that you are not racist - just like being married to a black or brown person or having children who are not the [...]
Here we go with the next five tips in our #40TipsForMen series in which we look at some really important things: 40 Tips for Men: Tip #31 Stop mansplaining. For those of you who don't know what that means one definition is: to explain something to a woman in a condescending or patronising way that assumes she has no knowledge about the topic. But it can also occur when a woman has said something [...]
Here we go with 5 more tips for parents in this #40TipsForParents series: 40 Tips for Parents: Tip #26 + Tip #27 Make time to eat together as a family. Use creative questions to go deeper with your family. Two tips in one here. So thought it worth sharing them together. You may not be able to eat all your meals with your family, but i would highly encourage you to make as much [...]
A lot of people seem to confuse the words 'Critique' and 'Criticism' and i thought it would be helpful to try to set the record straight. Certainly in light of the rise of #ImStaying with all of its positive vibes but hesitation to dive into deep conversations. Where any kind of questioning of this brings censoring, ridicule or ejection from the group. Anyone who has tried to ask meaningful questions about some of the [...]
There is a new group on Facebook that i am a part of called Conversations for a Just South Africa. At the moment there are around 1500 people in the group and climbing every day. Which may not seem super exciting to many people when a group like #ImStaying arrived on the scene just a couple of weeks ago and is on the way to 500 000 people. Conversations is not a group that [...]
There has been a lot of talk in recent times about Virtue Signalling. What is it, you may ask? Well here are two definitions i found online: To take a conspicuous but essentially useless action ostensibly to support a good cause but actually to show off how much more moral you are than everybody else. [Urban Dictionary: by Verboy] an attempt to show other people that you are a good person, for example by expressing opinions that will be acceptable to them, especially on social media: Virtue signalling is the popular [...]
The next five tips in our #40TipsForMen seeking to be better men are here for you: 40 Tips for Men: Tip #26 Don't rush to respond with #NotAllMen! i shared the tip series on the Twitterer and had this response: I would appreciate the men in my life to stop saying #notallmen . It takes away from the very serious conversations we need to be having. I feel anything but safe when I hear [...]
