pain and Hope : Brett Fish

Taboo Topics: Race – Meet Hari Kodabolu, some humour and the insulting idea of ‘The other’

Changing tack a little bit on this whole race conversation as we bring a little humour into it. Comedian Hari Kondabolu appears on the David Letterman show and shares some race-related humour which becomes deeply insightful when you take a moment to realise some of the truths that the comedy is bases on and especially as he dives into the highly insulting idea of group of people from different races or cultures being classified simply as [...]

By brettfish|2014-04-18T06:15:25+02:00April 18th, 2014|challenging thorts, humour'ish, pain and Hope, people, shtupidt people, thorts of other people, Uncategorized|1 Comment

Taboo Topics: Race – Meet Hari Kodabolu, some humour and the insulting idea of 'The other'

Changing tack a little bit on this whole race conversation as we bring a little humour into it. Comedian Hari Kondabolu appears on the David Letterman show and shares some race-related humour which becomes deeply insightful when you take a moment to realise some of the truths that the comedy is bases on and especially as he dives into the highly insulting idea of group of people from different races or cultures being classified simply as [...]

By brettfish|2014-04-18T06:15:25+02:00April 18th, 2014|challenging thorts, humour'ish, pain and Hope, people, shtupidt people, thorts of other people|0 Comments

Taboo Topics: Race – The power of words…

i came across this article, '21 Racial Microaggressions You Hear On A Daily Basis', posted by Heben Nigatu on Buzzfeed, made me unbelievably sad, and in the context of the conversations we are having at Irresistibly Fish, felt like something worth adding in here so that some more people will hopefully have that 'Oh' moment of getting this a little bit more. 'The term “microaggression” was used by Columbia professor Derald Sue to refer to [...]

By brettfish|2014-04-16T17:35:45+02:00April 16th, 2014|change the world, pain and Hope, people, shtupidt people, Taboo Topics, thorts of other people|0 Comments

Taboo Topics: Race – What I would love my white friends to hear – meet Siki Dlanga

Every important thing has been said particularly by Tsholofelo Mpuru! You nailed it girl. I don’t even know why I am writing but Brett asked and I said yes. This is my pet hate. A lot of white people may not be guilty of this. I hope. I mentioned to a Zimbabwean friend of mine this month just how much I absolutely detest being asked whether I am Zimbabwean by a white South African or [...]

By brettfish|2014-04-15T21:54:06+02:00April 15th, 2014|challenging thorts, pain and Hope, people, Taboo Topics, thorts of other people|8 Comments

Taboo Topics: Race – What I would love my white friends to hear: Meet Hulisani Khorombi

Where on earth do I even start with this topic? “What I want my white friends to know” seems like such a direct attack to some of my closest friends and those who I am still to meet. I absolutely love my friends so how could I write this? Then I thought about how much I really want to say some things and I sat down to type this. First of all I come [...]

By brettfish|2014-04-14T23:21:34+02:00April 14th, 2014|friends and enemas, pain and Hope, Taboo Topics, thorts of other people|0 Comments

Taboo Topics: Race – What I would love my white friends to hear – meet Mhlengi Mpungose

"I did not benefit from apartheid, therefore why should I be held liable" # this is just one heck of a common statement that I hear from a lot of my white friends and I find it unwarranted because it lacks intellectual credibility, empathy, responsiveness and a sense of self awareness - "white privilege" is the damn elephant in the room -# as a black man I'm always an immediate suspect, thanks to this stereotype caricature that [...]

By brettfish|2014-04-13T22:02:19+02:00April 13th, 2014|challenging thorts, pain and Hope, people, Taboo Topics, thorts of other people|0 Comments

Taboo Topics: Race – What I would love my white friends to hear: Meet Tsholofelo Mpuru [part i]

This is perhaps too long, but I've just been given a platform to vent out years and years worth of frustrations and I'm jumping in head first. But before I begin, let me say that I have way too many white friends to think that white people as a whole are racist, and I don't know if all of what I'm about to say applies to my friends cos I think (or hope) my friends [...]

By brettfish|2014-04-11T07:07:06+02:00April 11th, 2014|challenging thorts, change the world, friends and enemas, inspire-ations, pain and Hope, people, thorts of other people|22 Comments

Taboo Topics: Race – What I would love my white friends to hear

i don't know if this is the right place to begin this conversation on race, but it is a place and so will hopefully get the ball rolling and then we can see where it goes from there. i think we would be foolish to believe that this conversation will be easy or comfortable all the way through - i am hoping we will be able to get to a place where people can be [...]

By brettfish|2014-04-10T07:32:03+02:00April 10th, 2014|challenging thorts, change the world, friends and enemas, pain and Hope, people, thorts of other people|0 Comments

the power of a story shared

For some of you this will be a "best, most moving story I ever read, must forward to 100 friends" whereas for others, halfway through the first line will have you rolling your eyes and going, "Oh, one of those" if you are the former, enjoy the story, it's an inspiring story... if you are the latter, jump down to the bottom and see the point i am trying to make about it, it's a [...]

By brettfish|2014-04-07T11:32:47+02:00April 7th, 2014|activities, change the world, friends and enemas, inspire-ations, pain and Hope, people, relationships, Uncategorized|0 Comments

40ish Days of Lent: Day 26

DAY 26 Today has been a really hard day for me for two reasons. One has been physical and one has been mental/emotional/spiritual. Physically i have had a huge splitting headache for most of the day and that is not normal for me, nor has it been fun. Mentally/emotionally/spiritually today was probably my worst day on Facebook [and maybe being in pain already didn't help] as i got into an exchange with two people professing [...]

By brettfish|2014-04-01T15:47:14+02:00April 1st, 2014|activities, God stuff, inspire-ations, pain and Hope, Uncategorized|5 Comments