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Taboo Topics: Dealing with the grief of losing someone you love – Intro

Grief is such a huge and too often taboo topic, possibly because different people grieve in different ways and so it is often hard to know what to say or do when someone has lost someone they love. We have already looked at some powerful stories from people who have lost a baby and those who have lost a child, but what about someone who has lost a person who has been in their life [...]

Taboo Topics: Abortion – meet Irma Oosthuizen

When I started thinking about having children and even long before.. I would never have guessed that the word abortion would ever be part of my vocabulary. I am definitely pro-life, and have been an active advocate against abortions, even doing speeches and presentations on the matter. I always thought that it was a black and white issue, and I am sure that for most people it still might be… I kind of wish that [...]

Marriage Year 28: Meet Shelley and Deon Lombard

We read the story of Jade and Sean as part of the Marriage Year 4 posts and Jade was so inspired by taking time to reflect on her marriage that she invited her folks to do the same and so we have this stunning post by her mom, Shelley. Deon and I were married on August 30 1986, which means we have been married for 28 years this year. I would love to say it [...]

Taboo Topics: Losing a child – meet Sarah and Alexandra

The death of a baby or child is forever life changing in every way that you can imagine, or maybe you can not imagine. I must have heard this a million times, “I can not image how you handle this; I would not be able to handle it.” Who wants to imagine the death of their baby or child, No one I know and neither did I. But I found myself in that very real [...]

By |2014-03-18T07:11:51+02:00March 18th, 2014|pain and Hope, Taboo Topics, thorts of other people|1 Comment

Marriage year 15: Meet Natasha and Dave Henning

Married 15 years this year... "It's important to remember that there is a difference between being an awesome team and an awesome couple. Teams can work well even if the teammates don't connect on a deeper level."   As time goes on, the roles and job descriptions for everyone in your family unit sets in. Who sorts out the kids lunch, who buys the milk, who pays what bills, who handles the social calendar…after a while it [...]

40 Days of Lent: Day 8

DAY 8 Woke up to some really bad news this morning. A close friend had suffered one of the hugest losses imaginable. Task: Weep with someone who is weeping.  If you don't know someone personally that is weeping, then pick up a newspaper or go and visit a website, because there is enough corporate weeping going on that you can join - the families and friends of the missing airplanes, the people in the various [...]

By |2014-03-12T15:07:09+02:00March 12th, 2014|inspire-ations, pain and Hope, people, Uncategorized|5 Comments

Taboo Topics: Singleness – meet Deborah Dowlath

When my friend Deborah's post on 'What my Single Friends would like their Married Friends to know' hit 1000 views, i figured that people were interested in what she had to say and so it would be worth seeing if she was up to writing a piece for the Taboo Topic on Singleness and turns out, she was... Stages of Singleness When I was 18 years old, I attended my very first Singles Camp. Contrary [...]

40 Days of Lent: Day 5

wait, what it's only day 5 and i already don't want to write another one? i realised last nite that a huge danger of coming up with 40 days of Lent observance activities is the creativity of the idea usurping the actuality of the practical nature of the observance... wait, are you actually going to do that? that's a lot of thankfulness and gratitude you're calling the people to [in day 3's Lent Observance] two days [...]

Marriage Year 10: Meet Richard and Wendy Sumner

Wendy and I have been married since December 2004 but in some ways it seems so much longer because we have done so much since then, including immigrating (twice) and starting a business. And let me tell you, those are both very stressful, and stress is not good for a marriage. I think that what I have realised about marriage is that it is not always a feeling but a choice. You choose to be [...]

Marriage Year 9 : Meet Bettina and Kevin van Antwerpen

Kev and I met in 2000, and started dating shortly afterwards. In 2002 I was diagnosed with a (thankfully non cancerous) tumour on my pituitary gland situated in the centre of the head just below the brain and behind the nose and eyes. Over the next few years Kev was a great support through numerous tests and scans and especially when I had my first brain surgery in 2004. After seeing the doctor a few [...]

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