thorts of other people : Brett Fish

What my Single Friends would like their Married Friends to know: Meet Chris Jacobs

Where do you even begin to describe the real challenges associated with singleness vs. marriage? I run the risk of making myself incredibly vulnerable by the detail I share in this post, but to most of your readers I am a “relative stranger”, so whilst there may be some risk, I believe sharing may benefit some and in turn out-weight the associated risk. I’ve been reading through your, and everybody else’s posts and have found [...]

By brettfish|2014-11-25T05:08:33+02:00November 25th, 2014|friends and enemas, relationships, things to wrestle with, thorts of other people, Uncategorized|3 Comments

Two True Meanings of Christmas [some guested thoughts by Graham Heslop]

In response to a piece i shared on Christmas, which among other things, invited readers to share some of their creative/revolutionary/others-focused ideas they had for celebrating Christmas, i was tweeted by Graham Heslop links to two articles, asking me to check them out. i'm not going to lie, i wasn't super enthusiastic, mostly because the idea of reading more articles feels a little bit like work. But Graham is someone i follow on the Twitterer [@avosquirrel] [...]

By brettfish|2014-11-23T17:13:29+02:00November 23rd, 2014|activities, God stuff, inspire-ations, thorts of other people, Uncategorized, what i am reading|0 Comments

the Friday FANatic 21/11/2014

Wow, we're running out of Friday already and this feels like a much slower week than last week which was filled with amazing posts, shares and humouric things... But there were still some things worth checking out on the internet if you happened to miss them: MOST INSPIRATIONAL: The Guy Who Delivers HIV Medicine on His Bicycle - Get to know Sizwe Nsima's name and read his simple and powerful story ECONOMICALLY CHALLENGING: I'm Not [...]

By brettfish|2014-11-21T14:16:26+02:00November 21st, 2014|things to wrestle with, thorts of other people, Uncategorized, what i am reading|0 Comments

The Importance Of Being Earnest (Sex, Religion and the New South Africa)

[a guest post by Sindile Mlingo Vabaza] I will not pretend to have grasped the inherent difficulties in running a country but I think I can confidently assert that if we want not only a free and fair and just South Africa, but one that has clearly engaged it's past and moved into a post-colonial and post apartheid state, we are going to have to be both honest and have intellectual integrity no matter what [...]

By brettfish|2014-11-19T01:07:16+02:00November 19th, 2014|challenging thorts, God stuff, love and chocolate, relationships, thorts of other people, Uncategorized|1 Comment

the Friday FANatic 14/11/2014

i am generally inspired, amused, educated or enlightened by a number of posts on the internet any given week and link to them via the social medias. but the week time is busy for a lot of people and so you might find that you got to the end of it and missed out on some of the posts that otherwise might have interested you. so as i look back to this past week, here [...]

By brettfish|2014-11-13T23:07:08+02:00November 13th, 2014|activities, inspire-ations, thorts of other people, Uncategorized, what i am reading, what i am watching|2 Comments

Dubula ibhulu: Shoot the Boer/Farmer [and why we need to embrace this song]

[Possibly as good a time as any to remind readers that while i don't necessarily agree with all the points made in every post that is published on my blog, i do believe that the conversation and engagement with pieces like this is absolutely invaluable and i think it is so helpful to know and understand why people around us are thinking what they are. If you agree or disagree with anything in this [...]

By brettfish|2020-07-06T07:44:40+02:00November 12th, 2014|challenging thorts, local news, pain and Hope, things to wrestle with, thorts of other people, Uncategorized|19 Comments

To Be A Dad – meet Brad the Taylor

I thank God for the example I received from my parents about what being a godly, loving parent and spouse looks like. By God’s grace whether we have had a shocking or terrific upbringing we still have the responsibility to choose how we parent. However, it is easier to aim at what we want to emulate, than to just know what you don’t want to replicate. I thank God for the naivety and bliss with [...]

By brettfish|2014-11-10T23:08:28+02:00November 10th, 2014|family, pain and Hope, Taboo Topics, thorts of other people|1 Comment

Taboo Topics: Adoption – we meet Jackie Barker again [Successfully Adopted!]

I have taken a long time after telling Brett that I would write this, to actually sit down and put some words together. It feels strange to ‘tell our story’ because in so many ways we just feel like a normal family. Daddy, Mommy and baby. I’ve discovered in these last few months that much to my disappointment I am not a super-mother, I am very much the typical Mom who is doing all the [...]

By brettfish|2014-11-09T21:52:35+02:00November 9th, 2014|challenging thorts, change the world, family, Taboo Topics, thorts of other people|7 Comments

To Be A Dad – meet Timothy van de Venter

Let me start with a bit of context: I'm not a dad, but I have a dad and I'm an uncle to four nieces, a nephew and a bunch of my friends kids. I'm also the godfather to three girls, two of which are my nieces. I regularly have the privilege of getting to babysit (look after) my niblings (the collective term for nieces and nephews) and I know that that doesn't make me a [...]

By brettfish|2014-11-06T22:27:54+02:00November 6th, 2014|family, thorts of other people, Uncategorized|3 Comments

Steps Towards Transformation: part Employment Equity: Sindile Vabaza

I think it is important that I give an examples of how 'baseline' thinking can help us navigate difficult waters. 1.) The issue of employment equity is a difficult one. My take on it is that from my experience both young white and black people fundamentally want to feel like they are being treated fairly and of course that is a most reasonable thing, but I do want to latch on to the idea of [...]

By brettfish|2014-11-06T09:22:44+02:00November 6th, 2014|change the world, Taboo Topics, thorts of other people|4 Comments