Let's face it, most of us are going to be late occasionally. But it's when you make it a consistent habit that it becomes annoying and it is another character trait that can really affect a friendship. Especially if you do it enough that you become known as 'that guy/that girl'. [And it might be important to throw in a cultural disclaimer here cos this is definitely a very western time-focused mindset to have and [...]
Hm, this is a bit of a difficult one as i think i only know one person who does this. And it's me! But maybe you know someone else. And i think i'm getting better although it does take a lot of work. Did you ever know someone who interrupted you when you were speaking purely because they were so excited about what they had to say [as opposed to intentionally wanting to interrupt or [...]
This is a tough one for me. i feel like i can probably get over whatever other friend-losing behaviours i share after this one, but this one just feels so incredible rude, that i would struggle. Immediate downgrade to acquaintance or person-i-walk-away-from-quickly-when-i-see-you-heading-my-way feels fair. Does that seem too harsh? Maybe you've never known someone who does it. i am thinking of one person in particular. Really nice person. Quality. And so a number of years [...]
If you have a good friend you're trying to get rid of... oh wait, that only happens in the movies, right? Well how about a friend you want to keep or make? From time to time i hear people complaining that they don't have any close friends as if the Close Friend Fairy has passed them by [Did you put your old friends under your pillow?] As cheesesome as it may seem, i believe it's [...]
Continuing sharing some thoughts and extracts from the really great book i just finished, 'Robert Sobukwe: How Can Man Die Better' by Benjamin Pogrund and if you missed the first ones, you can catch up over here. Who better to kick us off on the topic of criticism, than my good friend Jack Handey: This extract is from Chapter 20 and this is Benjamin, the author, speaking: We had to delay our first meeting. I [...]
One of the most important relationships one can have is friendship. Family is family but you get to choose your friends, and all that. i have a crazy amount of good friends who i thoroughly appreciate and thought it necessary to have some posts looking at how we can make good friends as well as be good friends to those around us - i hope you enjoy: Cheering Section: The Art of Mentoring - I [...]
Last night, my wife Valerie [aka The Beautiful Val aka tbV] and i won the lottery. Now let me get this straight, i am not talking about the Dutch Lottery that i seem to win with alarming regularity [despite having never sent in any kind of entry or bought any ticket of any kind, but if it arrives in my email it must be true, right?] And i don't mean that time that kind old [...]
i wasn't originally thinking of this as a Taboo Topic topic. but then when i started looking on the book of faces for people to write for me and had friends using terms like 'can of worms' and 'Pandora's Box' to describe what i was suggesting, it made me wonder if that is not exactly where it needs to go. is no one speaking about this? having lived in Americaland for the last three years [in diverse and mixed [...]
i don't think we talk about Friendship enough. in fact, i think too often, too many of us might take it for granted. i don't think i do. i am just so constantly made aware of how many incredible friends i have in and around my life - the term 'best friend' relates to at least 7 people i can think of straight away who are all 'best friends' in differing but equivalent ways. and [...]
i logged on to the internetweb late last nite after a busy day needing to write an article before i went to sleep and was greeted by the sad news of Philip Seymour Hoffman's passing... i did what i do any time i hear a famous person has died, which is type 'Philip Seymour Hoffman dead scam' into Uncle Google to check on the legitimacy of the news and sadly could tell pretty quickly that [...]