love : Brett Fish

a letter, from Magda Pecsenye, to her sons about stopping rape.

'Dear Boys, Some really horrible things happened to someone who could be one of your friends, and it was done by some people who could be your friends. You're 11 and almost-8 now, so the incident that made me write this letter isn't something you've heard about, but this stuff keeps happening, unfortunately. So I need to talk to you about it...' with that attention-grabbing opening paragraph, Magda Pecsenye, who is the writer for the [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-19T21:20:19+02:00March 19th, 2013|change the world, heroes or heroic moments, inspire-ations, people, thorts of other people, what i am reading, world news|0 Comments

One way to love your spouse better – Brett Fish [Love them in the best way they receive it]

one story tbV [the beautiful Val] enjoys telling is how after a month of us dating she had a bedside drawer full of chocolate... why is this significant? well, i spent a lot of time giving tbV chocolate as a way of showing i loved her, but she is not a big fan of chocolate, preferring sour sweets instead and so basically i invested a month or so in making Val's housemate very happy. i [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-17T10:26:00+02:00March 17th, 2013|activities, challenging thorts, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, the beautiful Val (tbV)|0 Comments

psalmthing to chew on: psalm 52

i think the first very interesting thing to note with this psalm is the intro: 'For the director of music. A maskil of David. When Doeg the Edomite had gone to Saul and told him: “David has gone to the house of Ahimelek.”' if you read the first seven verses you see David's response to basically 'being told on' and he is not amused. should we learn from that example of David and go to ourselves, 'ah cool, [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-16T13:07:55+02:00March 16th, 2013|bible things, God stuff, psalms, what i am reading|0 Comments

the illegal car dealership i run.

well, not really, but i think the permanent ADT guard who lives in a little wooden hut across from my buddy Dunc's house where i stay may be suspecting that's what i do... purely for the number of different cars of all shapes and sizes that he has seen me drive into 2 Smithers Road over the last two months... i am always friendly and i always wave at him [or hims, because i think [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-11T11:22:11+02:00March 11th, 2013|church, friends and enemas, God stuff, inspire-ations, local news|0 Comments

One way to love your spouse better – Sheralyn Cloete [Assume, but well]

my friend Sheralyn has a very different [and absolutely amazing!] take on one way to love your spouse better - she has been married to Sam for four years now and they have a little boy called Malakai: as·sume [uh-soom] verb (used with object) 1. to take for granted or without proof: to assume that everyone wants peace. Synonyms: suppose, presuppose; postulate, posit. 2. to take upon oneself; undertake: to assume an obligation. Making your marriage work has a lot to do with how you think about your marriage and your spouse. So one way I know I can love my [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-09T01:53:40+02:00March 9th, 2013|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people|0 Comments

One way to love your spouse better – Robert Martin [Sacrificing Self]

Robert is a friend that tbV and i met once in Americaland at a protest of sorts and have since become strong online friends and co-appreciators of Pearls Before Swine and other shared forms of humour as well as sharing in a hunger for following Jesus - he has been married to Heather for close to 18 years and while this is more of a story than a 'one thing to learn' piece, there is [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-08T01:42:14+02:00March 8th, 2013|God stuff, inspire-ations, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people|0 Comments

One way to love your spouse better – Brett Fish: be on the same continent

Note, this is remarkably different from "be incontinent" so try not to get confused. [in fact to be honest one of the definitions listed was "Not restrained; uncontrolled" and i am going to be speaking to exactly the opposite of that...] At the point of writing this, my wife aka the beautiful Val, is currently in Americaland while i am still in South Africa [that is about to change in 5 days time though, can't [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-07T05:26:27+02:00March 7th, 2013|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, the beautiful Val (tbV)|0 Comments

One way to love your spouse better – Richard Erasmus [listening better]

my friend, Rich Erasmus, has been married for seventeen years to his lovely wife Cindy, and has some nuggets of wisdom to share with us in the area of one way you can love your spouse better: 'I would say one of the most important ways that I have “learned to love my wife better”, is through a technique I was introduced to during an “Imago” course. Bottom line … I learned to listen to [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-03T15:24:31+02:00March 3rd, 2013|change the world, God stuff, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people|3 Comments

One way to love your spouse better – Dalene Reyburn [the next right thing]

my friend Dalene, who is an incredible bloggist, has been married for 8 and a half years and this is a pearl of wisdom she has to share with us in terms of one way to love your marriage partner better: 'My husband stares into other women’s eyes all day. It’s his job. But when he’s done with corneas and optic nerves he comes home and tells me sweet somethings and whispers wonder and holds [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-01T02:45:34+02:00March 1st, 2013|change the world, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people|11 Comments

One way[s] to Love your husband/wife better…

when you're dating someone, you only see them at specific times and so generally you are able to always look good for them, for the most part you will be putting in extra effort and they will more than often see you at your best. it is also generally a time where you are often carried along by the emotion and the 'feelings' and the fresh raw excitement of the idea that this person of [...]

By brettfish|2013-02-28T02:38:29+02:00February 28th, 2013|change the world, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships|6 Comments