This past week has been tough. Sitting with a R40 000 bill over our heads [alongside the more manageable R12000 to fix our car] for driving into a BMW is not to be found on the list of 'Ten Ways to De-Stress your life'. But, we are surrounded by people who know and love us and there is no way conceivable to us that tbV [the beautiful Val] and i are going to find ourselves [...]
i am convinced that the solution to South Africa's problems lies in relationships. Issues can feel quite overwhelming - and they are - but are also somewhat easy to take a break from or switch off. When it's your friend who hasn't eaten or is struggling to find work or is lying in a hospital bed, then it's a lot easier and more natural to show compassion and want to be involved. Another fire [...]
my friend, Rich Erasmus, has been married for seventeen years to his lovely wife Cindy, and has some nuggets of wisdom to share with us in the area of one way you can love your spouse better: 'I would say one of the most important ways that I have “learned to love my wife better”, is through a technique I was introduced to during an “Imago” course. Bottom line … I learned to listen to [...]
this was our wedding day and as one does, we had an original authentic replica of the Aragorn sword from the Lord of the Rings movie trilogy that our friend who ran our drum circle [as one does] brought with him for the occasion... the question 'do you want me to bring my authentic Aragon sword replica?' has only one correct answer and you figure out the details later... so we took this picture: and [...]
these are a series of posts i am sharing that i have taken from a series called 'How to Love your Woman/Man better' from a while back and also a series titled 'One way to Love your spouse better' that i ran more recently [with the input of some friends] - there are many incredible gems here that can help you as you look to contribute to a healthy and thriving marriage and i hope [...]
i said to my beautiful wife Valerie the other day something along the lines of 'what do people write statuses [stati?] about on Facebook if they are not entering into a relationship or having a baby? [or these days in americaland making some kind of staunchly pro this party or anti that one political statement] as it just seemed like the majority of statuses [stati?] i was reading were about one of those... two things [...]
the other day i saw this cartoon that someone had posted on facebook that was pretty funny but involved hitler in a way that i knew would be offensive to a lot of jewish people. so i immediately wrote the girl who had posted it an email [more a friend of a friend than a direct friend] and just before i hit the send key i stopped for a moment, reread what i had written [...]
...continuing on the journeying of looking at how we date and how we could do better at it... this specific thort is very couple specific so for those who need to hear it, you REALLY need to hear it, whereas there are probably a whole bunch of people who don't [but you know people who do!] but i do think it is a healthy thing to give a quick look to. so the moment happens, [...]
i believe it is imperative that THE NUMBER 1 THING IN YOUR LIFE IS THE NUMBER 1 THING IN HER LIFE [i'm talking guy to girl here, but all of this flows both ways] when it comes to passion and interests and hobbies and so on there is room to have differing, even at times opposing interests, but NOT WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR PRIMARY FOCUS and joy and directional force. in the context of [...]
If you had to ask me what is one of the key principles in loving your woman well (whether it be wife or girlfriend) i would say to you, “I don’t remember.” No i mean that’s the answer... intentional amnesia In the Bible, Paul writes ‘Love does not keep a record of wrongs’ and that is a solid principle to employ in your relationship with your loved one – it also works for friends and [...]
